“Until we know the state of inner harmony, we, in best case, we can free you from your illness, because your inner harmony is the source of your health. But when we free you from the disease, you will immediately fall ill with another disease, because nothing has been done in relation to your inner harmony. The crux of the matter is that you should support your inner harmony».

Paracelsus

Mental well-being and a positive emotional background are indispensable conditions for maintaining health. Psychological discomfort, suppressed negative emotions and constant psycho-emotional overload often lead to disruption of the proper functioning of the body and trigger the pathological mechanisms of the formation of the disease. Everyone knows the words: “All diseases are from nerves”, but quite a few people think about how exactly you can psychologically protect yourself from stress and life difficulties how to learn right attitude to oneself, people around and the outside world as a whole, in order to maintain or restore one's health, to cope with bad habits and find the strength in yourself to change your way of thinking (and, consequently, your way of life) in order to prevent and get rid of the disease.

The central nervous system (CNS) and the autonomic nervous system (ANS) are very subtle and sensitive mechanisms for regulating all the vital functions of the body that connect our emotions and mood with the activity of absolutely all organs and systems. Psychological imbalance disrupts the proper regulation of the activity of the heart and vascular tone, which can be the beginning of a serious cardiac disease. Therefore, special importance should be given to the prevention and treatment of neurotic and psychosomatic diseases, anxiety and depressive disorders (especially latent, somatic depression), correction asthenic conditions and syndrome chronic fatigue. Positive emotions, a sense of self-worth and adequate self-esteem, a sense of inner harmony and a positive attitude towards the world around us strengthen the mechanisms of healthy self-regulation, increase the “margin of safety”, stress resistance and overall adaptation of the body, and, ultimately, heal the whole body.

The path to inner harmony and spiritual well-being is not always simple and clear. Each person has his own experience, his own values ​​and beliefs, which either facilitate this search or, on the contrary, make it much more difficult. There are fundamental directions, among which a person can choose the most suitable for himself. Individual psychotherapy is more suitable for someone, someone can choose to engage in oriental practices, some will benefit from training effective communication or learning self-hypnosis - in fact, the most important thing for a person is to want to be in harmony with himself, to find inner peace and a positive attitude.

And since the state of health (or ill health) is so closely related to the emotional life of a person, the goal of any treatment can be considered not only to get rid of a particular disease, but also to teach a person useful psychological techniques and techniques that will prevent the emergence of new diseases, help a person to better know themselves and their personal needs and create the necessary conditions for personal growth, spiritual development and, finally, just become a happy and harmonious person.

Material prepared: Arkady Kuznetsov

Beauty and Health Health

Probably, every person wants to always be calm and balanced, and experience only pleasant excitement, but not everyone succeeds. To be honest, only a few people know how to feel this way, while the rest live like “on a swing”: first they rejoice, and then they get upset and worry - unfortunately, people experience the second state much more often.

What peace of mind , and how to learn to be in it all the time, if it doesn’t work out in any way?

What does mental balance mean?

Many people think that peace of mind is a utopia. Is it normal when a person does not experience negative emotions, does not worry about anything and does not worry? Probably, this happens only in a fairy tale, where everyone lives happily ever after. In fact, people forgot that the state peace of mind, harmony and happiness is completely normal, and life is beautiful in various manifestations, and not only when everything turns out “our way”.

As a result, in case of violations or total absence emotional health is seriously affected by physical health: there are not only nervous disorders- Serious diseases develop. If you lose for a long time peace of mind, you can "earn" peptic ulcer, skin problems, diseases of the heart and blood vessels, and even oncology.

In order to learn to live without negative emotions, you need to understand and realize your goals and desires, without replacing them with anyone's opinions and judgments. People who know how to do this live in harmony with both the mind and the soul: their thoughts do not disagree with words, and words do not disagree with actions. Such people also understand those around them, and they know how to correctly perceive any situation, therefore they are usually respected by everyone - both at work and at home.

How to find and restore peace of mind

So can it be learned? You can learn everything if you have a desire, but many people, complaining about fate and circumstances, actually do not want to change anything in life: having got used to the negative, they find in it the only entertainment and a way to communicate - it is no secret that it is negative news that is discussed in many teams with great heat.

If you really want to find peace of mind and perceive the world with joy and inspiration, try to consider and use the methods that are described below.

Stop reacting to situations in the "usual" way, and start asking yourself: How am I creating this situation? That's right: we create any situations that "form" in our lives ourselves, and then we cannot understand what is happening - we need to learn to see the cause-and-effect relationship. Most often, our thoughts work on the negative course of events - after all, the worst expectations are more habitual than the expectation of something good and positive. Look for opportunities in any trouble, and try to respond "inappropriately." For example, if your boss “broke off” at you, don’t be upset, but rejoice - at least smile and thank him (for a start, you can mentally) for reflecting your internal problems like a mirror. By the way, gratitude The best way protect yourself from negativity and return peace of mind. Develop a good habit every evening to thank the Universe (God, Life) for the good things that happened to you during the day. If it seems to you that there was nothing good, remember the simple values ​​\u200b\u200bthat you have - love, family, parents, children, friendship: do not forget that not every person has all this. Constantly remind yourself that you are not in past or future problems, but in the present - "here and now." Every person at any moment of time has everything necessary to be free and happy, and this state continues as long as we do not allow past grievances or worst expectations to take possession of our consciousness. Look for the good in every moment of the present and the future will be even better. You should not be offended at all - it is harmful and dangerous: many practicing psychologists note that patients who carry grievances for a long time develop the most serious diseases. Including oncology. It is clear that about peace of mind there is no talk here. Sincere laughter helps to forgive insults: if you can’t find funny in current situation, cheer yourself up. You can watch a funny movie or a fun concert, turn on fun music, dance or chat with friends. Of course, you should not discuss your grievances with them: it is better to look at yourself from the outside, and laugh at the problems together. If you feel like you can't deal with dirty thoughts, learn to replace them: use short positive affirmations, meditation, or small prayers - for example, try replacing negative thought best wishes to the whole world. This method is very important: after all, at one moment in time we can keep only one thought in our head, and we ourselves choose “what thoughts to think.”

Learn to track your condition - be aware of what is happening to you “here and now”, and soberly assess your emotions: if you get angry or offended, try to stop interacting with others for at least a a short time. Try to help other people as soon as possible - it brings joy and peace. Only help those who really need it, and not those who want to make you a “hanger” for their problems and grievances. A great way to help restore peace of mind is regular physical exercises. fitness and walks: the brain is saturated with oxygen, and the level of “happy hormones” rises. If something oppresses you, you are anxious and worried, go to a fitness club or gym; if this is not possible, just run or take a walk in the park or at the stadium - wherever you can. Mental balance is hardly possible without physical health, and a person who does not know how to achieve balance cannot become completely healthy - he will always have disorders and diseases.

"Cheerful" posture - the path to peace of mind

Psychologists note that people who monitor their posture are much less prone to stress and anxiety. There is nothing complicated here: try to hunch over, lower your shoulders, head, and breathe heavily - in just a few minutes, life will seem difficult to you, and those around you will begin to annoy you. And, on the contrary, if you straighten your back, raise your head, smile and breathe evenly and calmly, your mood will immediately improve - you can check. Therefore, when you work while sitting, do not stoop and do not “squint” in a chair, keep your elbows on the table, and put your legs next to each other - the habit of throwing your legs over your legs does not contribute to balance. If you are standing or walking, distribute your body weight evenly on both legs, and do not slouch - keep your back straight. Try to consciously keep your posture for several days, and you will notice that there are fewer bad thoughts, and you want to smile more often.

All these methods are very simple, but they only work when we apply them, and not just know about them and continue to think about how we can achieve peace of mind and change our lives for the better.

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It is not so easy to achieve this state, but it is possible if all the recommendations are consistently followed.

Emotional balance is a synonym wellness and good health.

It is an internal point of harmony that helps us to believe in ourselves, restore our self-esteem and feel that we have life under control.

We live in an absolutely abnormal society, which requires us to be more productive. To be the best children, parents, best brothers and neighbors.

External pressure often leads to the death of one's own self. This completely destroys our emotional balance from the inside.

We need to find peace and turn on that "inner music" that will help us balance our needs in accordance with the requirements of the external environment.

We need to find a point where inner emotional balance will help us become much freer and happier.

We will cover this in more detail in our article.

The philosophy of the samurai will help you find emotional balance

Perhaps this headline surprised you a little, because few people associate samurai with psychology.

In this article, we will tell you about 6 key techniques which are useful to pay attention to.

1. Look at problems from the top down, never from the bottom up.

In order to gain, we must learn to control reality.

• The need to be “above” problems and experiences suggests that we have taken control of the situation.
• If you allow yourself to be "below" your problems, then you fixate too much on them.

Let's take an example. You are out of work. This is a very complex and rather dramatic situation.

If you lose control and say to yourself "this problem cannot be solved." Or “I will never get out of this state”, then let yourself be enslaved by your own fears.

Remember: always put yourself above what prevents you from saving. And nothing bad will happen to you.

2. Accept adversity

Samurai accepts death. He understands that sooner or later his turn will come to give his life. Just like bushido teaches.

• We must learn to accept adversity, to understand that life is not easy, that in fact we have nothing to lose. Sometimes you have to let go of things, people or situations.
• This dark part of life allows us to stay realistic and keep our minds more calm. This is how we achieve peace of mind.

3. Develop your decision making skills

We must be active participants in events, not just spectators. If our self-esteem suffers, our emotions, feelings dignity, values.

We must develop self-confidence so that we can be participants in events, and not just squires.

4. Your brain is your greatest ally

Reason is a reliable companion of a samurai. Only a calm cold mind will allow him to triumph over his enemies.

• Stress, doubt and fear are the main enemies of an emotionally stable mind., which do not allow us to focus on the main thing.
• In order to train our main ally, we must find time for this during the day.
• Silence, meditation and attention to our own needs and thoughts every day for 1-2 hours will allow us to calm our mind.

5. Clarify your goals, values ​​and principles

People must grow every day, striving for some specific goal. Sometimes it can be just "I deserve it and I want to be happy."

The samurai have their bushido code, we have our values. Nobody can take them away from us.

If you have a purpose and confidence in your values, nothing will stop you. Psychological and emotional balance will help you achieve something very important in life. Himself.

Abstract on the topic: "Methods for restoring emotional balance", "rules of mental hygiene of communication."

Author: Mamaeva Svetlana Alexandrovna, teacher of additional education, Municipal budgetary institution of additional education house children's creativity municipality"Donetsk city".
Description: This work is dedicated to such important things, as emotional balance and communication hygiene of our children. Since these are significant components precisely in the socialization and individualization of the younger generation.
Content
I. Introduction.
II. Techniques for restoring emotional balance.
2.1. Types and role of emotions in human life.
2.2. Awareness of responsibility for one's actions.
2.3. The value of the emotional stability of the teacher
methods for its conservation.
2.4. Examples of psychological help.
III. Rules of mental hygiene of communication.
3.1. The role of communication in mental development person.
3.2. Communication and education.
3.3. Teaching children to communicate and interact with people.
3.4. pedagogical communication.
3.5. Psychohygiene - without mental overload.
3.6. The principle of "Do no harm!" As the basis of psychohygiene of communication.

IV. Conclusion.
V. Literature.

I. Leading.

In our age scientific and technological progress when a modern person spends more and more time in front of a computer monitor, when specific gravity live communication is getting lower, and the quality of communication is undergoing significant changes due to the substitution of people in various fields activities by "smart machines", emotional experiences for a person retain their necessity and priority, as one of the sources of enrichment of the inner world of the individual, as one of the sources of knowledge of the surrounding reality. In such conditions of life, the child needs support, both at home and in educational institutions. How in general education school as well as in institutions of additional education. In both cases, it is difficult to overestimate the role of pedagogical support in the socialization and individualization of the younger generation. At the same time, in the system of pedagogical support, according to O.S. Gazman, includes psychological, social and medical support. The semantic and pedagogical meaning of the concept of "support" is that it is possible to support only what is already available (but at an insufficient level). The subject of pedagogical support, therefore, is the process of jointly with the child determining his own interests, goals, opportunities and ways to overcome obstacles (problems) that prevent him from maintaining his human dignity and independently achieve the desired results in learning, self-education, communication, lifestyle.
This work is devoted to such important things as the emotional balance and communication hygiene of our children. Since these are significant components precisely in the socialization and individualization of the younger generation.
One of the first to speak about the important role of emotions in human behavior was Leeper, a leading personality theorist, and Maurer, an eminent specialist in the psychology of learning. Maurer argued that "emotions are one of the key, virtually indispensable factors in those changes in behavior or its results that we call" learning ".
Emotions, or emotional experiences, usually mean a wide variety of human reactions - from violent outbursts of passion to subtle shades of mood. In psychology, emotions are called processes that are reflected in the form of experiences, personal significance and assessment of external and internal situations for human life.
Most people know what kinds of situations interest them, disgust them, make them feel angry or guilty. Almost every person is interested in watching an astronaut walk in space, disgust - seeing dirt, anger - being insulted and guilt - evading responsibility for loved ones.
So the lack of emotional communication, intimate contact of the infant with the mother leads to poor development of the infant, to frequent illnesses, defective emotionality, coldness, low ability for empathy and sympathy. And without all this, the child, having matured, will not be able to become a full-fledged member of society.
From this we can conclude that human behavior due not only to the action of elementary needs and instincts. Emotions reflect the world around us and regulate our behavior accordingly. They are not only an assessment of completed actions. In order to understand such concepts as value, purpose, courage, devotion, empathy, altruism, pity, pride, compassion and love, we must accept the existence and exceptional importance of the role of human emotions.

II. Techniques for restoring emotional balance.

2.1. Types and role of emotions in human life.
Emotions are a special class of subjective psychological states, reflecting in the form of direct experiences, sensations of pleasant or unpleasant, a person's attitude to the world and people, the process and results of his practical activity. The class of emotions includes moods, feelings, affects, passions, stresses. These are the so-called "pure" emotions. They are included in all mental processes and human states. Any manifestations of his activity are accompanied by emotional experiences.
In humans, the main function of emotions is that, thanks to emotions, we understand each other better, we can, without using speech, judge each other's states and better tune in to joint activities and communication.
Life without emotions is just as impossible as life without sensations.
Emotions act like internal language, as a system of signals through which the subject learns about the need significance of what is happening. The peculiarity of emotions is that they directly reflect the relationship between motives and the implementation of activities that respond to these motives. "Emotions in human activity perform the function of evaluating its course and results. They organize activity, stimulating and directing it.
The oldest in origin, the simplest and most common form among living beings. emotional experiences- this is the pleasure received from the satisfaction of organic needs, and the displeasure associated with the inability to do this when the corresponding need is exacerbated.
Main emotional states that a person experiences are divided into proper emotions, feelings and affects. Emotions and feelings anticipate the process aimed at meeting the needs, have an ideational character and are, as it were, at the beginning of it. Emotions and feelings express the meaning of the situation for a person from the point of view of the actual need at the moment, the significance of the upcoming action or activity for its satisfaction. Emotions can be triggered by both real and imagined situations. They, like feelings, are perceived by a person as his own internal experiences, are transmitted to other people, empathize
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Passion is another type of complex, qualitatively peculiar and found only in humans emotional states. Passion is a fusion of emotions, motives and feelings centered around a particular activity or subject. A person can become an object of passion. S.L. Rubinshtein wrote that “passion is always expressed in concentration, concentration of thoughts and forces, their focus on a single goal ... Passion means impulse, passion, orientation of all aspirations and forces of the individual in a single direction, focusing them on a single goal.”
Affects are especially pronounced emotional states, accompanied by visible changes in the behavior of the person who experiences them. Affect does not precede behavior, but is, as it were, shifted to its end. This is a reaction that occurs as a result of already committed action or act and expresses its subjective emotional coloring from the point of view of the extent to which, as a result of the commission of this act, it was possible to achieve the set goal, to satisfy the need that stimulated it.
Affects contribute to the formation in the perception of the so-called affective complexes, which express the integrity of the perception of certain situations. The development of an affect obeys the following law: the stronger the initial motivational stimulus of behavior and the more efforts had to be expended to implement it, the smaller the result obtained as a result of all this, the stronger the affect that arises. In contrast to emotions and feelings, affects proceed violently, quickly, and are accompanied by pronounced organic changes and motor reactions.
Affects, as a rule, interfere with the normal organization of behavior, its rationality. They are able to leave strong and lasting marks in long-term memory. One of the most common types of affects these days is stress.
The phenomenon of stress, discovered by Hans Selye, is one of the fundamental manifestations of life, as it allows organisms to adapt to various factors environment due to the universal complex of neurohumoral reactions.
This term became one of the symbols of medicine of the 20th century, and then went beyond this science into the related fields of biology, psychology, sociology, and simply ordinary consciousness, becoming fashionable, commonplace and ambiguous. This was facilitated by a real increase in the amount of stress in people, due to urbanization, an increase in the pace of life, an increase in the number interpersonal interactions(including conflicts), as well as an increasingly obvious discrepancy between the biological nature of man and the conditions of his social existence.
2.2. Awareness of responsibility for one's actions.
The level of awareness of their responsibility among people is not the same. Those who have it higher understand and use the principle “Do no harm!” But in most cases it is necessary to look for approaches to another level of responsibility. As a "bridge" to a new level of responsibility, you can use the most pressing personal problems that many people have in the field of communication. It is necessary that a person at least once feel the joy of victory over the elements of communication, the joy of mastering the situation through the inclusion of conscious control, above all, over his behavior. How to prevent another domestic quarrel or another family scandal. This is where the knowledge of psychological patterns will help.
1. In quarrels and scandals, no one can ever prove anything. Reason: negative emotional impact blocks the ability to accept, agree, take into account, understand, i.e. block the work of thought.
2. It is necessary that at least one of the participants in the quarrel learn the above for a start. If a person has learned this, then it is easier for him to develop a rejection of a quarrel.
3. All scandals have a very tense tone. Negative emotional arousal quickly captures both participants if neither of them is inclined to stop the conflict. To extinguish negative emotional arousal, it is necessary to stop its reinforcement. As the saying goes, "he who is smarter will be the first to shut up."
4. It will stop if the silence ignores the very fact of the quarrel, the very negative excitement of the partner, as if none of this had happened! But if silence is colored with mockery, gloating and defiance, it can act like a red rag on a bull...
5. A quarrel can be stopped by calmly leaving the room. But if at the same time you slam the door or say something offensive before leaving, you can cause an affect of terrible destructive power.
6. If your partner is inclined to view your refusal to fight as a surrender, it is better not to refute this.
That is, the position of the one who refused to quarrel should completely exclude anything offensive and insulting for the partner, so that nothing reinforces his negative emotional arousal. The winner is not the one who leaves behind the last smashing attack, but the one who manages to stop the scandal, to prevent it from taking place. How else to teach children to save the world?
Children adopt our attitude to quarrels and scandals. We need to teach children to refuse ccop. And this is achieved, first of all, by force own example adults.
1. Children respect strength. They tend to feel both strength and weakness. They are difficult to mislead. The hysterical behavior of the elders, indignant cries, dramatized monologues and threats - all this belittles them in the perception of children, makes them unpleasant, but not strong at all.
2. Nothing conveys a sense of the strength of a person like unflappable, calm friendliness. It can become a shield for an adult, with which he protects himself from negative emotional impact on the part of a teenager (child), and an instrument of influence on him.
3. Correct behavior can only be called right behavior. All ways behavioral responses and forms of children's behavior are conditioned and transmitted by the behavior of adults.

2.3. The value of the emotional stability of the teacher, recommendations for its preservation.

It is difficult to overestimate the importance of a teacher's emotional stability. After all, the personality of the teacher, the teacher, has a huge impact on the development of the personality of the next generation. Availability emotional tension manifests itself not only among young specialists, but also among teachers with experience. Tense situations of pedagogical activity lead to inadequate assessments of what is happening, to impulsive actions in relation to pupils, contribute to the formation of such personal traits as lack of initiative, passivity, and a sense of one's own professional unsuitability. Experienced emotional states are often accompanied by pronounced vegetative reactions: hand tremor, noticeable changes in facial expressions and facial tone, palpitations. This negatively affects the well-being of the teacher, causes severe overwork, decreased performance.
In some cases, emotional stress reaches a critical moment when the teacher loses self-control and manifests itself in a passive-protective (tears) or aggressive (shouts, nervous walking around the classroom, a sharp knock on the table, etc.) form. This kind emotional reactions the activities of experienced teachers are also present, in which ways of discharging emotions in the workplace are often manifested.
To remove excess emotional tension and restoration of emotional balance in professional activities, systematic work to increase the level of the teacher's emotional culture plays an important role. The recommendations below will help maintain emotional stability, emotional expressiveness, allow you to better understand yourself, perceive life events positively, which will contribute to the development of the ability, of course, to accept people, events as they are.
Moreover, it must be added that these recommendations are suitable not only for educators, but for everyone who experiences similar problems.
1. Become interesting person! To do this, you need to acquire new knowledge. Any new knowledge will enrich and diversify your communication with other people.
2. Appreciate what is good. Even in the most difficult situations, there are positive moments. They must be found. No matter what, you are sure to have things that turn out well. Remember them. Do you swim well? Are you dancing? Do you sing? Do you have a smart cat? Does your dog show miracles of training? Did your child first name you? Isn't that good? Won't it stay like this?
3. “If I wasn’t (he wasn’t, we wouldn’t be…)…” An imaginary dialogue about what would happen if… will help you become more aware of your possible losses and gains. It will allow you to look at your life differently, open your new feelings.
4. Collage of virtues (I see that they are). Take some time and build it for yourself. Cut out of paper, magazines and beautifully paste a list of your virtues on a large sheet. It will decorate not only your room, but also your life.
5. "Sharp dialogue." Fight him without him. Tell him everything you would like to say, but do not forget his remarks. This is a dialogue - there are two of you - although the interlocutor is imaginary.
6. Notes about a good mood. Write to yourself and your loved ones. Write only about the good in your mood and their mood. You will see that it is not so little.
7. Develop social behavior skills. Read books about rules of conduct, about etiquette. You will like your behavior, and others will appreciate the changes in you. This will give you confidence and charm.
8. You and your social role (talking to a stranger). You are tired of being a teacher (mother, cook, wife, etc.). Talk to your social role. Listen to her and listen to yourself too. This will help you clarify whether you are a role or a living person.
9. Know how to relax! Recall some of the ways: needlework, music, poetry recitation, dancing, massage, shopping, breathing exercises, boxing with an invisible opponent, communicating with children, logical introspection of events, reading detective stories.
Daily 2-3 minutes for communication analysis, strict analysis of errors, which you will try to correct in the near future.
- learn to take a break from communication, create silence bands for yourself, at least 2-3 hours a week. In this case, it is useful to engage in autogenic training.
- avoid monotonous communication.
- you can’t constantly be within the framework of a social role - take a break from yourself as a communication partner, be different for some time.
- you can't stay deprived for a long time spiritual communication so that the inner world is not mechanized.
10. Clothing and appearance. Going to the hairdresser and wearing new clothes will transform your sense of self. Constancy in this matter is not the most faithful assistant for life.
11. Greetings. Learn to express it in different ways. The verbal formulas offered to you are just the beginning for your personal creativity.
12. Anonymous conversation. A helpline, a stranger on the road, a random neighbor on a park bench, a taxi driver are people you can talk to about your personal problems. Having spoken out, you will feel relieved, and they will understand that they did a good deed by listening to you.
13. Compliments. This is a sign of respect for other people. Know how to say them, want to say them.
14. Have something to say... What are your favorite topics? Yes, they should be. But there are also common themes. Such common theme maybe something that is directly present in the situation that unites all the people in it. This is the general theme.
15. Start a conversation. Don't know where to start? Show interest in the interlocutor. This rule has been known for a long time. It is from interest in another person that you can go to any other topic.
16. Maintaining a conversation. It is said that conversation becomes endless when people start talking about themselves. Try asking questions about the person you are talking to.
17. Learn to listen actively. A nod of the head, a look into the eyes, a posture directed towards the interlocutor, replicas of agreement and satisfaction, clarification of the speaker's thoughts - this is both the science and the art of active listening.
18. Travel. The benefits of travel have long been known. Often distance doesn't matter. What matters is the experience you get.
19. Christmas decorations. Their contemplation and rearrangement long before the New Year gives rise to a wonderful mood, allows you to see your life in a new light.
20. Family album. Don't forget old photos. In addition to nostalgic feelings, they will help you relive life's achievements.
21. Moments of calm. Everyone needs them. Learn to find them for yourself and use them, relaxing to the end. Sitting comfortably, spending a few minutes alone with yourself, you will be able to put your feelings in order, move the vain and accidental away from the important, essential for you.
22. Learn to express your feelings in words. Remember that others simply do not have to solve them, and besides, they are immersed in their own feelings. Make your feelings open - your I-statements will help you with this:
I want …
I can …
I'm going to …
I think …
I feel …
Instead of dots, continuing this statement, you are talking only about yourself, about your feelings, excluding the appeal to "you", "we", "you".
No need to refer to someone or something, let your openness be your text, accessible for others to understand.
23. Change living space. Rearranging furniture in the house is not only an update external conditions life, it is at the same time a journey to one's own "I", the search for its new, often unexpected qualities for oneself.
24. Drawing. Make a masterpiece. Choose a quiet moment and clean slate paper with a felt-tip pen, pencil, paints - whatever you want - express your condition. Your masterpiece may not only deserve your attention.
25. Dance for yourself. Yes, for yourself to music that you really like, and you like or like yourself when you feel the influence of music on you, dancing.
26. Comparison. Who do you look like now? What do you look like now? Are you happy with this image? If not, it's worth finding a prettier comparison. “I look like…” I hope not like wet chicken.
27. Tales. Have you not read them for a long time? It is worth reading at least a few fairy tales by G. Andersen. He is waiting for you, hurry up.
28. Find a new word. You constantly think about what you "should". Replace this word in your thoughts with another one, for example, “I want”, “I agree”.
29. Take an unexpected action, do something you feel like picking up a pebble from the road and tossing it up. See how many unexpected joys you can give yourself. Take back your childhood.

2.4. Examples of psychological help.

Often parents and teachers have to independently solve psychological problems in communication - interpersonal and professional. The information below can be used to resolve these issues. When applied tactfully and flexibly, it can serve as a lever in improving parent-child relationships and teacher-student relationships.
Ask:
- How to calm a person if he cries "in public"?
- See why you're crying. If he buries a loved one, do not stop him from crying. Sometimes compassionate friends and girlfriends, at the next bout of grief, grab their shoulders, start shaking: "Stop right now! Pull yourself together!" This is not the best kind of help. Grief takes time. It's like a wound, it needs to heal. Or like an abscess, he needs to open up.
Sometimes this requirement only hurts. If a person could pull himself together, he would have already done it. Lovers of the phrase "Pull yourself together!" often cause a backlash: a person now wants to cry from the offensive tone of this phrase, condemning-alienated, condescendingly patronizing, squeamish ... Even in the best case, one hears reproach, disapproval in it. Moreover, it does not contain the "what" and "how" to pull yourself together! You don't have to oppose yourself to this person, you have to sort of "enter" his tempo-rhythm. You can say to him (her) at an accelerated pace, in the rhythm of worried excitement:
- I know it's hard for you, don't strain yourself, cry, since you can't do otherwise. Cry! Only at the same time try to hear what I say, and answer me. Look here, what is this?
(point to any items and ask about them).
The questions are designed for the limited ability of the crying person - to answer in one word. In the course of a minute or two, it gradually slows down, the pace of questions and answers evens out. The need to see and speak removes the dominant affective tension in a matter of minutes, especially if it is combined with walking. The crying person needs to know that he is not condemned for tears, that he will not be left in trouble, that they sympathize with him.
There are people who love to be comforted. After several attempts to comfort and reassure them, they beg for new portions of consolation. In order not to reinforce their tears with your participation, not to contribute to the development of tearfulness, you should step back with mild restraint, leave or be silent, doing your own thing. And if this person is young, then, without losing a benevolent tone, you can inspire calmly and authoritatively:
- You will now calm down, because you have already been given the full measure of our sincere sympathy. And now there is no time to cry, the matter is waiting.
Of the lovers of begging for consolation, there are those who calm down with relief after they are shouted at with their own severity: "Enough! Your tears have run out, and you are still crying!"
The choice of the method of assistance and the degree of participation must be correlated with the circumstances and with the character of the person. When it is worse for him than those around him, you need to unobtrusively help him with deed, and sympathy, and consolation, and the opportunity to "pour out." And if a person is already abusing attention, although the causes of his experiences are insignificant or have already been eliminated, then after the above methods of help, you can resort to the calm authority of a short but energetic suggestion.

III. Rules of mental hygiene of communication.

3.1. The role of communication in the mental development of a person.
Communication is of great importance in the formation of the human psyche, its development and the formation of reasonable, cultural behavior. Through communication with psychologically developed people, thanks to the wide opportunities for learning, a person acquires all his higher cognitive abilities and quality. Through active communication with developed personalities, he himself becomes a personality.
The content and goals of communication are its relatively unchanging components, depending on the needs of a person, which are not always amenable to conscious control. The same can be said about the available means of communication. This can be taught, but in much lesser degree than the technique and methods of communication. The means of communication is understood as the way in which a person realizes a certain content and goals of communication. They depend on a person's culture, level of development, upbringing and education. When we talk about the development of a person's abilities, abilities and skills of communication, we primarily mean the technique and means of communication.
Communication techniques are ways of pre-tuning a person to communicate with people, his behavior in the process of communication, and techniques are the preferred means of communication, including verbal and non-verbal.
In the process of communication, some types of techniques and conversation techniques are used, based on the use of the so-called feedback. In communication, it is understood as the technique and methods of obtaining information about a communication partner used by interlocutors to correct their own behavior in the process of communication.
The feedback mechanism involves the partner's ability to correlate their reactions with the assessments of their own actions and draw a conclusion about what caused the interlocutor's certain reaction to the words spoken. AT feedback also included are the corrections that the communicating person makes to his own behavior, depending on how he perceives and evaluates the partner's actions. The ability to use feedback in communication is one of the most important moments in the process of communication and in the structure of a person's communicative abilities.
Communication skills are the skills and abilities to communicate with people, on which its success depends.
Educated and cultured people have more pronounced communicative abilities than uneducated and uncultured people. Wealth and Diversity life experience of a person, as a rule, positively correlates with the development of his communication skills.
3.2. Communication and education.
If the teaching predominantly determines the cognitive development of the child and is directly correlated with the subject, practical activities, then communication most of all affects the formation of personality and, therefore, is associated with upbringing, the interaction of a person with a person. Psychologically proper upbringing and there is a thoughtful, scientifically based communication of people, designed for the development of each of them as a person.
The educational impact of man on man presupposes correct perception and evaluation of each other by people involved in this process. Therefore, if we do not know the mechanisms of perception of a person by a person in the process of communication, then we are unlikely to be able to reasonably manage educational process through communication, to anticipate its results.
The development of communication motives goes hand in hand with the development of the child's personality, the system of his interests and needs. The following types of communication are distinguished: organic, cognitive, gaming, business, intimate-personal and professional.
Organic motives are the needs of the body, for the constant satisfaction of which it is necessary for the infant to communicate with adults.
When children are included in a variety of games, then the reason for communicating with people around them is game motives, which are a combination of the need for knowledge and movement, and later - in design. The game becomes a source of not only these, but another group of motives - business. M. I. Lisina believes that business motives for communication are born in children in active play and household activities, are associated with the need to receive help from adults.
The three named groups of motives dominate in children of preschool and primary school age.
Intimate personal motives arise when the ability and need for self-knowledge and self-improvement appear. It is usually associated with the onset adolescence. When older students think about their future profession, they have the last group of communication motives encountered in childhood - professional.
The content of communication, which serves educational purposes, is the transfer from person to person of useful information, on the basis of which people can form and develop as individuals. This information includes values, norms and forms of behavior, assessments and ideas, ideals, goals and meaning of life. The measure of their acceptance by one person in communication with other people depends on the attitude of people to each other. These relationships, in turn, are determined by the standards of interpersonal perception.
In the process of people knowing each other, these standards play the role of a measure that is applied to one person and determines its impact on another person.
3.3. Teaching children to communicate and interact with people.
The style and methods of managing children's groups and teams should differ from the methods of managing groups of adults, since the main task in managing children's groups and teams is the task of teaching and educating children the skills and abilities of group interaction. There are also age features leadership of children's groups, reflecting the specifics developmental psychology and ensuring continuity in the development of relevant communication skills.
Practically organizing the work of children's groups and teams, the teacher must teach children to communicate skillfully with each other, to establish and maintain good business relationships.
To teach children to create emotionally favorable personal relationships in a group.
To teach children to resolve conflicts in the sphere of personal and business interpersonal relationships.
Education correct distribution duties involves systematic explanatory work aimed at convincing children that collective activity, built on the basis of the division of functions, their specialization and cooperation, and the coordination of the efforts of group members, is progressive. With the right organization, work in progress for the benefit of all people without exception, generating a significant material gain, providing social and moral support and contributing to the development of each as an individual. This happens when a group or collective does not dominate the individual, does not infringe on his interests and does not suppress him.
The two most important roles that are found in almost all organized groups of children's type are the roles of the leader and performers. First of all, children must be taught how to perform them. The child, first of all, needs to be shown how to gather children, distribute responsibilities between them, ensure that each of them understands and accepts his role well. The next stage of training is aimed at mastering the functions of coordinating, controlling joint activities, summing up its results. First, an adult needs to teach the child to obey him, and then to his comrades, and it is necessary to ensure that the child gradually moves from external control over his activities to internal self-control, from conscientious performance of duties in the presence of other people to their conscientious performance alone with himself .
An important condition for good business interaction is a favorable personal relationship between the members of the group. Therefore, Children must also be taught to establish good personal contacts, win over people, create and maintain good mood. This requires children to learn the techniques of emotionally favorable interpersonal communication.
A special pedagogical task is to educate the child in the ability to remain a free, independent person in a team, not to become depersonalized and not to assert his personal “I” at the expense of freedom and suppression of personalities in other people, violating their interests. Practical Solution This problem is sometimes complicated by the fact that not every adult is able to behave as expected, ready to become an example and a role model for children.
In joint activities, people often have disputes, discussions, contradictions in their views, which, if they are not removed in a timely manner, can develop into a conflict, lead joint activities to a dead end. Bearing in mind the natural impulsiveness of children, their emotional expansiveness and incontinence, the inability to control their actions and deeds, it is important to teach children to follow as early as possible. certain rules in disputes and discussions - those that prevent the emergence of conflict and impasses in joint activities.
It can be assumed that elementary learning in the field of disputes and discussions is quite accessible to younger students, including the ability to listen and understand others, prevent and eliminate conflicts in interpersonal relationships. In a word, this age has significant, far from being fully explored and used in practice, the reserves of the mental and behavioral development of children. One of the reasons why teenagers and many high school students do not know how to communicate, why it is so difficult for adults to solve various kinds of problems together with them, is that no one specifically teaches this to children at primary school age.
3.4. pedagogical communication.
Among the special pedagogical abilities there is also an ability of a special kind, which cannot be unambiguously attributed either to the activity of a teacher or to the work of an educator, since it is equally necessary for both of them. This is the ability for pedagogical communication.
What is the structure of communication abilities, knowledge, skills and abilities used by the teacher in communicating with students?
First of all, we note that the communicative abilities that are manifested in pedagogical communication are the ability to communicate, acting in a specific way in the field of pedagogical interaction associated with the education and upbringing of children. At least two useful conclusions can be drawn from this:
1. The conversation about the ability to pedagogical communication cannot be carried out independently of the discussion of general communicative abilities, manifested in all spheres of human communication.
2. When it comes to the ability to communicate pedagogically, it is impossible to confine ourselves to talking about general communicative abilities. Firstly, not all human communicative abilities manifest themselves in the same way and are equally necessary for the teacher. Secondly, there are a number of special communication skills that a teacher should possess and which are not necessary for people of other professions, in particular, a person’s knowledge of other people, knowledge of himself, the correct perception and evaluation of communication situations, the ability to to people, the actions taken by a person in relation to himself.
Let us consider each of the selected groups of communicative abilities in more detail and at the same time outline the problems that may arise in the process of pedagogical communication due to the insufficient development of these abilities.
Cognition of a person by a person includes a general assessment of a person as a person, which is usually formed on the basis of the first impression of him; assessment of individual traits of his personality, motives and intentions; assessment of the relationship of externally observed behavior with the inner world of a person; the ability to "read" postures, gestures, facial expressions, pantomime.
Man's knowledge of himself presupposes the evaluation of his knowledge; assessment of their abilities; character assessment and
other personality traits; an assessment of how a person is perceived from the outside and looks in the eyes of those around him.
The ability to correctly assess the situation of communication is the ability to observe the situation, choose the most informative signs of it and pay attention to them; correctly perceive and evaluate social and psychological meaning the situation that has arisen.
Interesting in pedagogical terms, but less studied and give rise to more diverse problems in practice, the so-called non-verbal forms of pedagogical communication. Related communication skills include: the ability to make contact with strangers; the ability to prevent the occurrence and timely resolve conflicts and misunderstandings that have already arisen; the ability to behave in such a way as to be correctly understood and perceived by another person; the ability to behave in such a way as to enable another person to express their interests and feelings; the ability to extract the maximum benefit from communication for oneself.
3.5. Psychohygiene - without mental overload.
Mental hygiene is the science of how to achieve and maintain mental health. Mental health is a general term used to describe psychological state generally. This concept includes how a person treats himself, how he knows how to create and develop relationships with other people, how he copes with difficulties.
Good mental health is not only the absence of mental disorders. Mentally healthy man able to control their emotions and behavior, cope with problems, create and maintain meaningful relationships, as well as effectively recover from experienced stress. Other signs of good mental health:
general feeling of satisfaction with life;
the ability and desire to have fun;
the presence of a significant and beloved thing in life;
flexibility of the psyche, allowing a person to easily learn and adapt to changes;
the ability to maintain a balance between work and leisure;
self-confidence and high self-esteem.
These qualities allow a person to lead a full, productive life, feel happy.

3.6. The principle of "Do no harm!" As the basis of psychohygiene of communication.
When a person says: - Such is my character! - He takes no responsibility for his manifestations...
- How can I judge my character! - he liberates himself from self-understanding and self-control...
- Character is my own business! - rejects claims and attempts to correct it ...
In these familiar phrases, first of all, the position of irresponsibility, laziness of thinking, thoughtlessness. Sometimes - militant ignorance.
Children easily adopt those positions that do not require mental effort. And above all - the position of irresponsibility.
Which of the parents was able to think about his character, he can become a friend of his children. And then they think... At least about what character is. The exact scientific formulation is not so important. If only it came into consciousness that the main thing in the content of the concept of "character" is the attitude of a person to everything and everyone and the ways of expressing it. In this work, it is important for us how a person relates to people and to himself, and how this is expressed precisely in communication.
Communication needs sanitation (improvement). Persistent educational work is needed everywhere, it is necessary to carry, plant, root the mental hygiene of communication. And you have to start with your parents.
Among the sections of mental hygiene, the most important for all educators is the mental hygiene of communication. This section requires special attention. This branch of mental hygiene, without losing its significance as a medical science, came so close to psychology that in psychiatric institutions it received a residence permit in the psychologist's office, in the zone of his competence. This is because it is psychology that considers the laws of communication and the ways of its conscious regulation. Then what is here from medicine?
First of all - the principle "Do no harm!". Do no harm to the neuropsychic health of a person, group, or society. In addition, the information on which this principle is based relates to medical psychology. BUT medical psychology learned a lot from neurology and psychiatry.
Psychohygiene of communication, as well as psychohygiene in general, can acquire different accents and profiles depending on the area of ​​its application. For example, the application of psychohygiene of communication to the work of medical institutions is medical deontology - the science of medical professional ethics. Here the same principle "Do no harm!", But its basic information has a medical profile, although it remains in the competence of a psychologist. This is the science of the norms of behavior of medical staff in dealing with patients. The application of psychohygiene of communication to the work of educators - pedagogical deontology. Specific provisions, norms and rules of deontology are determined by the specifics of the institution, profession. But everywhere they are subject to the principle "Do no harm!".
Every modern person (especially urban) communicates with an innumerable variety of human individuals, and each person is a whole world. Therefore, the field of communication is extremely complex. It is connected to absolutely all parties. human life. Communication of adults with a human cub makes him a man. In the sphere of communication, value and other orientations of a person are formed. The sphere of communication is the most powerful source of those factors that determine our mental state, up to neuropsychic health and its disorders ...
In addition to mental hygiene, is there any other normative regulation in the field of communication? Exists.
What instruments of social control carry it out?
First of all - law, i.e., the legal norms of people's behavior established by the state.
There is another type of social control over the sphere of communication: moral and ethical. Every action and every word of a person (less strictly - almost every) in varying degrees promotes either good or evil, brings either benefit or harm.
As a synonym for moral, moral practice, the word "ethics" is often used, while ethics is primarily a doctrine, the science of morality, its theory. However, this science, in addition to theoretical tasks, has an important area of ​​social and practical application for us - these are the problems of the moral education of a person.
Morality never comes out on its own. It always manifests itself in something and is not limited to some specific area phenomena. Therefore, any circumstances can be used for moral education, especially in the field of communication.
In the practice of communication itself, such high degree organic connection between ethics (moral practice) and the mental hygiene of communication, which is difficult to see where one ends and the other begins. Compliance with the principle "Do no harm!" coincides with a positive sign morality, i.e. serves the good. Violation of this principle of mental hygiene always opens the floodgates of evil. That is, the mental hygiene of communication itself (both science and practice), being in the service of protecting neuropsychic health, at the same time contributes to moral control.
Without the mental hygiene of communication (without its principle "Do no harm!" and without its information about the psychological patterns of communication), moral practice can quite unexpectedly acquire negative sign(a person, believing that he is doing good, generates evil, or, with visible observance of legal norms, another person is harmed). Non-observance of the principle "Do no harm!" ultimately serves as one of the main causes of many heart diseases and neuropsychiatric disorders.
Compliance with the rules of mental hygiene of communication is one of the most important ways of psychological assistance and its indispensable condition.
The most important principle of general mental hygiene is "Do no harm!" - is also basic in the psychohygiene of communication. All its rules are somehow based on this principle.
The very first rule of mental hygiene of communication contains a requirement - to subordinate all your behavior to this principle.
The second rule is a continuation of the first one: by all your behavior (including informational behavior) contribute to the spread of this principle and the formation of self-control in people's minds.
The third rule requires all your behavior to contribute to the elimination of the consequences of violation of this principle among others.
It is convenient to combine the moral education of our children with the formation of this principle in their minds and the assimilation of these very basic rules. The earlier they organize a person's behavior, the higher will be the level of his moral consciousness and responsibility, the more harmonious and full he will be as a member of society.
But in order to implement these rules in the daily behavior of children, adults with a strong positive moral character are needed so that they can cause an involuntary desire to imitate them.

3.7. The ability to listen as one of the elements of the mental hygiene of communication.
The ability to listen is a great and rather rare skill. It also includes the ability to hear, that is, the ability to hear exactly the interlocutor, and not your different thoughts about what he said, and the ability to listen so that your interlocutor wants to tell you, speaks openly and with pleasure. The ability to listen helps to establish contact and win over the interlocutor, understand his point of view - and, if necessary, turn it in the right direction.
A child's ability to listen is one of the indicators of a child's readiness for school. When the skill is not formed, the child asks a question and runs away without listening to the answer: he interrupts the speaker or switches to another activity while he is talking. The steps that make up this skill are: the child looks at the person who is speaking, does not interrupt, tries to understand what was said, says “yes” or nods his head, and to better understand, can ask a question on the topic.
There is hardly any universal formula listening skills, the preferred listening style is determined by the psychotype of the narrator, and different situations require different things. Business listening is mainly fixing information and repeating the main semantic points. Personal listening is more varied. Once upon a time, this is mutual assistance with empathy and reflection of feelings, once a lively entertainment of interlocutors, involving the exchange of vivid emotions, and an appropriate anecdote in response, and friendly arrivals.
Any type of hearing the most important moment is attention to the interlocutor, attention to what he says.
The second most important moment of high-quality listening is precise adjustments to the interlocutor. Adjustments for gestures, facial and eye expressions, speech tempo, vocabulary and values, adjustments for breathing - all this creates a feeling of "we are together, we are ours" and improves contact in communication.
Concerning eye contact, then it is more important not how much, but how. Most people avoid looking into the face and eyes of the interlocutor in communication, about the same number, when they look, express distrust and criticism, in one way or another a negative assessment. It is right to teach people to look into the eyes more often, but even more important - to look kindly, with warm support.
To earn a reputation as a worthy interlocutor, it is useful to know what conflictogens are - and not to use them in your communication. Categorical negative assessments and objections, reproaches and accusations, complaints and excuses, as well as in general, communication in a circle negative topics- hindrance to good communication. On the contrary, the mastered skill of Total Yes will make your listening both productive and pleasant: the interlocutor will be sure that you hear and understand him, while you really could hear the sensible thing that the person wanted to say.
It doesn't matter which method you decide to start practicing your listening skills with - everything you learn will be very useful.

IV. Conclusion.
Having studied the material on the topic “Human Emotional Balance”, we can conclude that the importance of emotions in a person’s life, in his activities, and social development can hardly be overestimated. Wherever we are: at home in the family or at work, in the company of friends or among strangers, in the theater or alone with ourselves - we always perceive the impact that surrounds us, somehow evaluate it, somehow relate to it. And always and everywhere this perception is accompanied by a certain internal attitude to everything that's going on. A person experiences what happens to him and happens to him: he relates in a certain way to what surrounds him. The experience of this relationship of a person to the environment provides the presence of emotions.
We have also seen that emotional health is of great importance for full life each person.
Also, now we know that a healthy emotional background is not possible without observing the rules that ensure the mental hygiene of our communication. And communication, in turn, shapes the personality of a person.
In the modern world, people cannot do without communication, a person spends most of his time in society: at work, in the office, in the family, with friends. Any public activity is not complete without it, and there are also many professions where communication skills are needed: teachers, lawyers, journalists and politicians, etc.
. Through other people, developed, educated, erudite and emotionally mature, we get important information about the world around us, which forms our worldview and helps us become cultured, educated, morally developed and civilized people.
Thus, the following conclusions can be drawn:
Communication is an integral part of human life. Impact on us public opinion proves it. There are also many ways to influence people on each other, for example, hypnosis, blackmail, fashion, suggestion.
communication is a need, it is the goal of relationships with other people.
communication is a source of knowledge and understanding of others.
If a person's communication is complete, then he feels satisfied and happy, this contributes to the development of his capabilities, self-realization and success. If a person, on the contrary, communicates little, withdraws into himself, then he develops an inferiority complex in himself, deprives himself of useful information and new opportunities, the general mental state of a person worsens. Thus, the importance of communication in human life is very great.
Do not forget that full-fledged communication is possible only in a society that observes the mental hygiene of communication!

People, as a rule, do not realize how many diseases come from a lack of emotional balance. For example, approximately 7 million Americans take medication for back pain every day. Dr. John Sarno of the Rehabilitation Medical Institute in New York believes that emotions, stress, anxiety and depression are responsible for at least 80% of back problems 5 . In the preface to his book, which is called "None of these diseases" Dr. S. McMillen, knowledgeable of the facts, writes:

"Medicine recognizes that emotions such as fear, sadness, envy, resentment and hatred are responsible for most of our diseases. Estimates range from 60 to almost 100%. Emotional arousal can cause high blood pressure, toxic goiter, headaches , arthritis, apoplexy, heart disease, gastro-intestinal ulcers, and many other diseases. As physicians, we can prescribe medicines for the symptoms of these diseases, but there is little we can do about the root cause - emotional disturbance" 6 .

This is where Christianity comes in. God can change a person completely and help him overcome his harmful emotions. It is easy to imagine how such a change can contribute to the well-being of a true Christian. Let's look at a few emotions that can be harmful to health in order to learn how to deal with them.

Anger is one of the first in the list of harmful emotions. hatred, opposition and resentment - all these emotions are condemned in God's Word. How to fight them? Love. We love God. We love our families. We love our brothers and sisters in Christ. Love is beautiful, and it is God's commandment. The fact is that love for one another is the hallmark of the disciples of Jesus Christ. "By this all will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another" (John 13:35). However, our love should not stop there. We are commanded to love even our enemies. Jesus Christ set an example of such love when He prayed for those who nailed Him. We must be so filled with God's love that it is impossible for us to hate anyone. This will have a very positive impact on our lives!

Fear, anxiety, and feelings of insecurity create tension that does great damage to our physical condition. The Christian can win over all of these. Time after time God's Word tells us, "Don't be afraid!" Even in the presence of death, the Lord said to one father who was in great sorrow and confusion: "Do not be afraid, only believe" (Mark 5:36). He who said, "All power in heaven and on earth has been given to Me," also promised, "Behold, I with you always, until the end of the age" (Matt. 28:18, 20). Jesus not only has all power and is always with us, but He also cares for our well-being. He cares for us (1 Pet. 5:7.) The safest place in all the world is in the center of God's will. The psalmist declares, "God is our refuge and strength, our present help in trouble. Therefore let us not be afraid, even if the earth shakes, and the mountains move in the heart of the seas" (Ps. 45:2, 3). Let's say with David: "The Lord is my light and my salvation: whom shall I fear? The Lord is the strength of my life: whom shall I fear?" (Ps. 26:1). Always remember that: "There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear" (1 John 4:18*). security, under the protection of God's hand, free from fear and anxiety, the Christian should enjoy the blessing of good health.

Psychologists and psychiatrists agree that it is very important for a small child to know that someone truly loves him. If he feels rejected or unwanted, then this can cause serious problems in his health, as well as negatively affect the development of his personality. Adults also need to know that someone loves them. One rich man who lived alone said, "I'd give anything if there was someone around me who would worry about me when I come home late from work." Loneliness, feelings of rejection, the feeling that no one loves you - all this can cause depression, discouragement, and even loss of health. Being in this state, a person often thinks about suicide. Thank God, Christians can always be sure that there is a friend next to them who is closer than a brother (Prov. 18:24). He loves us very sincerely, as evidenced by His sacrifice. God loves us because it is in His nature, just like a rose gives off its fragrance simply because it is a rose. Because His love does not depend on how much a person deserves it, it is permanent and eternal. The Lord says, "I have loved you with an everlasting love, and therefore I have extended favor to you" (Jer. 31:3). If we know that God loves us sincerely, then we will be freed from the fear and insecurity that many people today are filled with.

A very wise man once said, "A merry heart is good medicine, but a despondent spirit dries up the bones" (Prov. 17:22). Happiness is of great importance for our health and our well-being in general, but how few people seem to be truly happy! How many joyful faces do you see on the streets of the city? True joy is the fruit of the Spirit, as listed in Galatians 5:22. Romans 14:17 speaks of "joy in the Holy Spirit." In a letter to the believers in the Philippian church, Paul admonishes them following words: "Rejoice in the Lord always; and again I say, rejoice" (Phil. 4:4). We may not be able to rejoice always due to different circumstances, but we can always rejoice in the Lord. One great leader of the Jewish people, who returned from the Babylonian captivity, told his people that they should not be sad, but rejoice, because "the joy of the Lord is your strength" (Nehemiah 8:10). It is very difficult for the devil to tempt a Christian who feels perfectly happy. How can you captivate a person who is satisfied with everything and rejoices in everything? Joy is a very healthy emotion.

Mental health, according to some doctors, covers physical, social, cultural, spiritual health, and all other aspects of health. It is very important that the center of communication, which directs all the actions of the body, be kept in good condition. The Christian has a promise, which is, "... the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus" (Phil. 4:7). Of course, in order to have this world, certain conditions must be met, which are real. First, we need to have peace with God - only in this case we can feel inside ourselves God's world. When Jesus Christ was about to leave this world, the gift He left to His followers was peace. He said, "Peace I leave with you, My peace I give you; not as the world gives, I give you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid" (John 14:27). Controlling thoughts is perhaps the most difficult task a Christian faces. Because thoughts produce actions, we must make every effort to control our thoughts and not put up with harmful thoughts. We must not forget that a person cannot get rid of thoughts that overcome him, simply by saying: "I will not think about ...". He must fill his mind with other thoughts. In this regard, the apostle Paul gives us in Philippians 4:8 a list of things we should be thinking about. This Bible verse says, "Finally, my brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is glorious, whatever is virtue, praise, consider these things."

When a prominent Christian was asked what was the secret of his life of spiritual victory and blessing, he replied that he had made Jesus Christ the refuge of his thoughts. We often have to go to work, school or somewhere else, but when we are free, we return to our home. When our brain is freed from all sorts of tasks, it must return to its home - to Jesus Christ.

Hello, friends! Today I will talk about a technique that allows you to normalize the work of the temporal lobes of the brain.One of the functions of the temporal lobes is emotional balance. A stable emotional balance allows you to maintain composure in situations that are unpleasant for you and not to focus your attention on unpleasant moments. The techniques that I have personally tested on myself will help to achieve balance for people with “overheated” temporal lobes. I really lacked this knowledge in the first year after the injury. I was extremely irritable, quick-tempered and rude. Aggression beat over the edge and only by normalizing the work of the brain, I managed to change the course of events.I recommend starting with the following...

1. Collect memories

Celebrate your life. Fix Beautiful moments your life in drawings, notes, diary, photos or video.

Strive for experiences that fill you with energy, motivation, and give you a sense of happiness, success, and health. The temporal lobes are responsible for our experiences. If we stimulate them with good sensations, then we maintain our health in good condition. By the way, the condition of the skin is directly related to the health of our brain. Relive the good memories again and again. When we look back at the joyful events in our lives, we realize that our life is full of good moments for the sake of which it is worth living.

I first wrote down my memories in a special diary of memories, and later I began to capture joyful moments in photos and videos. Their viewing plunges me into the warmest memories and brings a feeling of joy and serenity.

Choose yours best option collecting memories and record every joyful event in your life. If this is a diary, then try to describe everything that happens as clearly as possible. Write about your sensations, feelings, about the colors and smells that surrounded you that day. Just writing such details with your head will immerse you in pleasant memories and have a powerful positive effect on your brain.

2.Sing wherever possible

The song is the joy of life. Sing your favorite tune throughout the day. It calms the temporal lobes and the deep limbic system. It doesn't matter how you sing. Just sing! Singing is good for health and improves mood. Sing softly or to yourself. Sound activates the brain and improves the perception of what is happening.

Music and song is a wonderful thing in neurorehabilitation.

3. Practice toning for 5 minutes a day.

Tonning is the pronunciation individual sounds which have different effects on our body:

• Ahhhh - has an instant relaxing effect.
• Eeeee or Ayyy is the most stimulating sound. Helps to focus, get rid of pain and anger.
• Ou or Ohm - raises the temperature skin and relieves muscle tension.

Coming home from work, every day I was engaged in toning to a mantra in which very similar sounds were pronounced. This seriously unloaded me from nervous overload, gave me peace and relaxation. I highly recommend trying this trick.

Unfortunately, I couldn't find much information about Russian research in this area and the meaning of other sounds on the human body. But quite unexpectedly, when studying the influence of mantras, I came across interesting information about the influence on the body of individual sounds in yoga practice. Periodically, these sounds are used by me in the process of meditation and resonate with the vibrations of the chakras. Amazing effect.

• And it has a stimulating effect on the brain.
• And - chanting this sound inspires peace.
• SI - eliminates fear.
• U - gives strength and wisdom.
• E - improves communication skills.
• Yu - gives prosperity.
• E - causes love to the world.
• OE - helps in building relationships.
• O - harmonizes and streamlines life.
• IA - activates the Anahata chakra (region of the heart).
• OH - establishes the inner harmony of a person.

I discovered the effectiveness of these sounds the moment I started listening to mantras. Mantras transfer the brain to a different state, in which it is possible to quickly achieve the desired state of relaxation and even sleep. Toning is often used in mantras.

Practice toning for 5 minutes over several weeks and see if it helps you or not.

Any vocalizations, up to a conversation, can have a healing effect. Cats constantly use toning, purring under their breath. And even studies have shown that the purity of cats' purring (25 - 150 Hz) coincides with the therapeutic wave range used in medicine.

4. Listen to good music

Listen to any good music large quantities(different). Music helps to activate the temporal lobes, revitalizes the mind and inspires peace. Music has a healing effect.

Scientists from the University of California have shown that rhythmic music has a stimulating effect, while calm music has a relaxing effect. Mozart's music enhances visual-spatial learning. Mozart's music is music for the brain.

You don't have to listen only to classical music. Listen to the one you like, but remember that heavy and negative music has a negative and even destructive effect on our body.

5. Move rhythmically

Rhythmic dances affect the entire body and have a healing effect. Dance cheers up and gives pleasant memories for many months and even years. Don't deny yourself dancing, even if you don't know how to dance. The brain loves rhythmic movements to music and tactile interactions with a partner.

Give yourself bright moments. Move to the rhythm!

6. Reduce or Eliminate Nicotine and Caffeine Intake

At this point, I stopped drinking coffee altogether. I used to be able to drink three or four cups a day. At the time, I didn’t understand the relationship between coffee drinking and my irritability. There is no doubt that when we drink coffee, we feel a surge of energy. But the fact is that over time the body gets used to it and already requires each time an increasing dose of caffeine to feel cheerful.

The same thing happens with nicotine. Large doses of nicotine reduce the oxygen supply to the temporal lobes of the brain, and this leads to irritability.

I suggest giving up caffeine and nicotine (try at least for a week), and the results will not be long in coming. Believe me. You will become more collected and energetic, and your skin will become noticeably better.

7. Get enough sleep

Scientists have long proven that a person needs 6-8 hours for a good sleep. Reduced sleep leads to irritability, causes Bad mood, reduces mental capacity and concentration. Make a schedule for yourself that will allow you to get enough sleep and feel refreshed in the morning.

8. Adjust your diet

With continued aggression and increased impulsivity, I recommend adding foods high in protein and low in carbohydrates and sugar to your diet. At dark thoughts pay attention to what you eat and choose a balanced diet. I noticed that in my case, the frequent use of sweets (sweets, chocolate, pastries) reduces my concentration and organization.

Each problem area of ​​the brain requires its own diet, and we will talk in more detail in the following articles.

All our thoughts are real. Many of our illnesses come from our thoughts and worries. The very life around us depends on our attitude towards it.

When 6 months passed after my injury, I noticed how the dance improved my mood, drove away drowsiness, charged me with vigor and energy. And I danced at home, six months after the injury. It was laid out that there were strengths, just to calm the increased excitability, which interferes with concentrating and making deliberate decisions.

The same thing happens when physical activity. Physio strengthens and rejuvenates neural connections brain. Do exercises every day, start doing fitness, tennis, ping-pong (it trains your brain great), go to the gym, in a word, pick up a sports activity to your liking and do it regularly.

It is also important to unwind after a day at work. This is a kind of soft zero. Give yourself 20 minutes of rest every day after work. I call this time a relaxation session. Before starting, you can say a couple of positive phrases from your installations. Sit comfortably in a chair or lie down on a bed. Turn on calm music and begin to imagine how the whole body relaxes.

For deeper relaxation, you can turn on beautiful, calm music. Or you can use video meditations. There are a lot of them on YouTube now. Choose for yourself what is right for you. Mantras have a good effect on relaxation. With their help, you can put the brain into a deep state of relaxation and fall asleep. There is nothing wrong with falling asleep during relaxation. This is evidence that you are completely relaxed and the body needs rest. With limited time, you can set an alarm in advance and not be afraid to oversleep something important.

I hope this information was useful to you. Live happily!

See you!

P.S. These rules were written in my diary and were visible every time I opened it. So I kept them in mind.