"…Human can't get well without forgiving himself. This fundamental stage opens up the possibility of transforming not only our love for ourselves, but also the very heart and blood in our physical body.”

This new blood, filled with the energy of newfound love, will wash the entire body like a miraculous balm and heal all cells in its path. Even if your common sense does not allow you to believe in it - try all the same, because you have nothing to lose.

Here are the steps true forgiveness, already passed by thousands of people and rewarded with miraculous results:

1. Define your emotions (often there are several). Be aware of what you are accusing yourself or another person of, and determine what feelings this causes in you.

2. Take responsibility. To show responsibility means to realize that you always have a choice - to react with love or with fear. What are you afraid of? Now realize that you may be afraid of being accused of the same things you blame the other person for.

3. Understand the other person and relieve stress. In order to relieve tension and understand another person, put yourself in his place and feel his intentions. Think about the fact that he, perhaps, blames both himself and you - for the same thing that you blame him for. He is afraid, just like you.

4. Forgive yourself. This is the most milestone forgiveness. In order to forgive yourself, give yourself the right to be afraid, to show weakness, to be mistaken, to have shortcomings, to suffer, and to be angry. Treat yourself the way you are this moment knowing that this is a temporary condition.

5. Feel the urge to ask for forgiveness. In preparation for the stage, imagine that you are asking for forgiveness from the person whom you condemned, criticized or accused of something. If this image gives you a feeling of joy and freedom, you are ready for the next step.

6. Meet the person you want to apologize to. Tell him about your experiences and ask for forgiveness for judging, criticizing or hating him. The fact that you yourself forgave him, mention only if he talks about it.

7. Make a connection or make a decision about the parent.

Remember a similar situation in the past with a person who represented power, authority for you - with your father, mother, grandfather, grandmother, teacher, etc. This person must be of the same gender as the one you just forgave. Repeat with him all the steps of forgiveness.

If the emotions you are experiencing are directed against yourself, go through steps 1,2,4 and 7.

Now let's look at the three emotions that people experience the hardest: fear, anger, and sadness. A person usually suppresses, controls, hides these emotions - in a word, does everything not to experience them, as they stir up emotional wounds received in childhood and adolescence. These wounds are caused by five negative psychological factors: rejection trauma, the trauma of the abandoned, the trauma of humiliation, betrayal and injustice.

Instead of giving themselves the right to be imperfect and suffer from emotional wounds, most people continue to blame others as the cause of their fear, anger, and sadness. That's why people worry so much negative emotions and emotions, in turn, cause all sorts of illnesses.

But these emotions can be used for good:

* Fear helps you understand that you need protection and are looking for it. He also reminds us that real protection should be sought in oneself.

* Anger is useful in that it helps you discover your need for self-assertion, articulate your demands, and listen more closely to your needs.

* Sadness helps you understand that you are suffering from a sense of loss or fear of losing. Sadness teaches a person not to be attached.

LOVE YOURSELF - means to be responsible for your life and give yourself the right to exercise this responsibility. If you love yourself, you will have a healthy and energized body that will allow you to fulfill all your dreams.

This book is for those who are tired of not happy life and is ready to change it and change itself. This book is for those who are tired of misunderstanding and want to make their relationships with other people more harmonious. This book is for those who are tired of the lack of love and want to learn true love for themselves, gain faith in their strength and peace in their hearts. Liz Burbo - author of two dozen bestsellers, founder of the system personal growth an experienced trainer and spiritual teacher for thousands of people from all over the world. Her advice helped many people to realize responsibility for their lives, first of all, to themselves, to comprehend their true desires, to recognize your true self, which means to start living more consciously and let success into your life. This training book offers 40 exercises to help you master the Luz Burbo system.

A series: Secret knowledge that changes lives

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by the LitRes company.

Part one

Permission to live

Chapter one

The Pain Experience: Recognizing and Healing Personal Trauma

They say childhood is the most carefree time. Like, lives small man, is not responsible for anything, runs and jumps and knows no problems. Nonsense, of course. Childhood is perhaps the most difficult period life, full of events and impressions. Happy and unhappy at the same time. The most dramatic, if you will.

Deeply experienced childhood events, moments of happiness and grief have lifelong consequences, affecting the personality of an already matured person, his actions, worldview, relationships with others.

Fortunately, it is no longer a secret for anyone that the main people for any child are always - parents, and it is the relationship with them that influences the formation of the personality more than the relationship with anyone else. The family is the beginning and core of the coordinate system of any child, the starting point. Parents are his main teachers, "healers" and, alas, "pests" too. Psychological and mental traumas, without which no childhood can really do, are usually intentionally or accidentally (more often the second) inflicted by parents.

So, long-term observations of children and adults, people single and married, physically healthy and not very strong, allowed Liz Burbo to put forward the following assumption: each person goes through four stages as they grow up.

The first stage is the knowledge of the joy of existence, of being oneself.

The second stage is suffering from the fact that it is impossible to be yourself.

The third stage is the period of crisis, rebellion.

The fourth stage is the “building of a new personality”, or, in other words, the selection of a mask that is more in line with the expectations of adults from a child.

Mask, according to Bourbo, it becomes a skillful substitute for everything real that is in a person: character, habits, affections, desires, even food preferences. The mask is either worn for a few minutes a day (if the injury is not deep and partially worked out), or worn almost constantly (if the injury is deep, not worked out and still causes suffering). The mask is designed to protect and, indeed, protects us - from new injuries, from our own imperfection, from pain, from dangers ...

But at what cost!

After all, wearing a mask means never being yourself.

Could the punishment be more severe?

Gradually, Bourbo systematized the observations and proposed the original concept of the five masks as expressions of the five mental traumas most often experienced by a person.

Five injuries, according to Bourbo, can be described as follows:

The trauma of the abandoned (trauma corresponds to the mask of the dependent).

Trauma of the outcast (mask of the fugitive).

Trauma of the humiliated (masochist mask).

The trauma of betrayal (the mask of the controller).

Trauma of injustice (mask of the rigid).

“There is not a single person who has not been rejected at least once, abandoned, betrayed, humiliated, treated unfairly. It hurts, it angers, it upsets. However, we only experience pain own will. This happens when the ego manages to convince us that our suffering should be blamed on someone else, – expresses the paradoxical thought of Bourbo. “But there are no guilty people in life; there are only those who suffer."

However, in order to accept the suffering part, that is, the mask - your own or another person - Liz Burbo suggests that you first get acquainted with all five and identify features each injury-mask.

It is important to understand that each of the five injuries described by Burbo has a nasty property - obsession. Once it has "hit" a person's soul, it will repeat itself and return, and be experienced each time as a new traumatic experience. Until the trauma is worked out, experienced and accepted, a person unconsciously attracts events and people into his life that confirm his worthlessness, inappropriateness, uselessness.

In a word, a person injures himself again and again, without even realizing it.

So, if you feel that unpleasant events in life are repeated again and again, that you seem to be missing right to life that others are better than you, then it's time to finally stop pretending that everything is in order, but to determine what kind of injury was inflicted on you in time immemorial, and which protective mask, according to Liz Burbo's classification, you have chosen. Only in this way, through awareness and pain, healing is possible. And after the healing - a new, happy life.

Characteristics of injury rejected who wears a mask fugitive

First injury: from conception to one year.

Rejection comes from parent of the same gender who either did not want a child or wanted a child of the opposite sex. Because of such a global discrepancy, the fugitive does not feel the right to exist.

body expression: compressed, narrow, fragile, as if "elusive".

"nothing", "no one", "does not exist", "disappear", "I'm sick of...".

Detachment from the material. The pursuit of excellence. Focus on the spiritual, intellectual. Strives for solitude, for "escape". Wants to be invisible. He thinks he is not understood. Predilection for sweets or alcohol as ways to escape.

Characteristics of injury abandoned who wears a mask dependent

First injury: between one and three years old.

Applied parent of the opposite sex. As a rule, the "abandoned" child suffers either from a lack or lack of communication with a parent of the opposite sex. Reason - emotional detachment parent, his full physical absence, lack of interest in the child or lack of warm, emotional contact between the child and the parent.

body expression: elongated, thin, flabby body, Long hands, the back is curved. Big sad eyes.

Favorite words and expressions:“no one”, “absent”, “alone”, “do not leave”, “endure”, “do not leave”.

Manifestations in daily life: In relationships, he tends to merge with others, does not tolerate separation well. Ready for a lot, just not to be alone. Most of all, it needs external support, positive reinforcement. Lacking a resource of support and love within himself, he constantly seeks and even requires attention from others, however inner emptiness insatiable. It is difficult for him to do or decide something alone. Sad, tearful, prone to mood swings. Most afraid of loneliness.

Characteristics of injury humiliated who wears a mask masochist

First injury: over a period of one to three years.

Applied by the parent who is engaged physical development child (usually the mother). As a rule, this overly controlling parent which provokes in the child a reaction of shame and a feeling of humiliation.

body expression: fat, short, chubby.

Favorite words:"worthy", "unworthy", "small", "fat".

Manifestations in daily life: Often ashamed of himself or others, and to stifle shame, uses control - also, of himself or others. He does not listen to his needs, including sexual ones, although he knows them. Hyperresponsible. Low self-esteem. Prone to psychological self-torture: "I am bad, disgusting, unworthy and cannot become worthy." Most afraid of freedom.

Characteristics of injury devotee, who wears a mask controlling

First injury: in the period from two to four years, that is, during the normative experience of the Oedipus complex.

Applied parent of the opposite sex when a mother or father behaves differently from what the child expects from them, manipulates, hangs unrealistic hopes on the child, or generally evades parental responsibilities. As a result, the child loses trust in the parent, and therefore in the world in general.

body expression: real tough guy. As if deliberately strong, athletic, toned body.

Favorite words and expressions:“separate (s)”, “do you understand?”, “I can”, “I can handle it myself”, “I knew it”, “I told you”, “trust me”, “I know”, “at he has something on his mind”, “I don’t trust him”, “break (s)”.

Manifestations in everyday life: Impatient and intolerant. Difficulties with trust. Vulnerability hides behind skepticism. He pretends to be responsible, obligatory, important, but in fact it costs him a lot of effort to keep his promise, or at least not forget about the promise. Loves praise. He does not tolerate lies from others, although he himself easily cheats. Needs leadership, formal or informal. If the boss is good, then he is a good performer. More vsgo afraid of divorce, breakup, separation.

Characteristics of the survivor's trauma injustice, who wears a mask rigid

First injury: between the ages of four and six, when the child first begins to feel and appreciate his individuality.

If, by different reasons, the child cannot show individuality, does not have the skill or conditions for self-expression, traumatization occurs: the child experiences this as an injustice and turns anger, resentment, sadness to a parent of the same gender.

As a rule, relationships with parents are superficial. Often, the traumatizing parent is characterized by coldness, inattention, he is not able to establish trusting contact with the child. As a result, the survivor of injustice seems to separate himself from his emotions, gives himself the attitude “I don’t feel anything,” and puts on a mask of rigidity.

body expression: well-built, proportional, but constrained in the movements of the body. Tense neck and jaw. The posture is straight, proud.

Favorite words and expressions:“no problem”, “always, never”, “very good, very kind”, “that’s right”, “am I right?”, “if I’m not mistaken”, “exactly”, “quite fair”, “of course”, "Do you agree?".

Everyday manifestations: In every possible way strives for perfection and is unnecessarily demanding of himself. Thinks not about who he is, but about what he does. From childhood I got used to thinking that he is valued not for who he is, but solely for his achievements and deeds. Often believes that others are more fortunate than him. Contact with own feelings is absent. He does not like and does not know how to ask for help. He is prone to doubts, to comparing himself and others. And, in comparison, it always loses. He constantly carries a feeling of guilt, believing that he is not worthy of pleasure, joy, praise. AT emotional manifestations inhibited, but most afraid of others coldness.

Did you recognize your mask? Did several types seem familiar to you at once? Not for you, so for someone from relatives and friends the mask turned out to be just right? Both this and that are absolutely normal.

What makes the classification proposed by Burbo convenient is its versatility and at the same time flexibility. Highlighting the main character traits and typical manifestations, Liz Burbo constantly repeats that the same protective mask different people they are worn in different ways - there are no injuries, “as in a textbook”, or absolutely identical manifestations of suffering. Everything dictates our individuality. In addition, it often happens that a person experiences several mental traumas and, accordingly, puts on several masks - one on top of the other or in turn.

To accurately recognize your (or neighbor's) trauma, Liz Burbo recommends several tricks:

Search and select main, key signs of injury, because if the injury is not very deep and moderately severe, then all the described symptoms may not be;

Do not be afraid to “feel” the mask on your face, remembering that at one time the mask was vital. Perhaps her protection allowed you to survive or reduce suffering;

Calmly and purposefully treat mental trauma: this is just as normal and natural process as the treatment of physical ailments or diseases.

Of course, Liz Burbo has her own method of healing trauma. It is successfully used to treat even chronic, deep, poorly conscious traumas and includes several stages - several steps.

First step- this, whatever one may say, is the recognition of one's trauma, its presence and role in one's life. In other words, if you continue to pretend that you are not sick with anything, you will not be cured. One way or another, you will have to see your mental trauma, determine its “type”, and then recognize its existence (but, mind you, not a priority for managing your life!).

“A person lives for this, in order to work out what has not been worked out, and to resolve what presses with the burden of suffering,” says Liz Burbo.

Well, it's reasonable.

Second step to healing - to accept your trauma and give it at least a part unconditional love. Let's just say - it's incredibly difficult!

First of all, unconditional love (according to Burbo, this means “to accept, even if you don’t agree or don’t understand”) is not given “for this”, it must be cultivated in oneself gradually and persistently. One, universal, all understandable way there is no development of unconditional love, but some possibilities and techniques will be described later in this book.

Secondly, the more unbearable the injury, the more strong love she needs. However, the effort is worth it: as soon as your throbbing pain, your tired mask will feel that it is not driven, but loved, evil spell will start to melt. Checked!

Finally, third step is to go through the four stages of development described at the beginning of this chapter again, only in reverse order- from the fourth to the first. In the first step, you will have to see your mask. On the second - to work with your resistance, which will certainly arise and will be expressed in rebellion, indignation, denial of the obvious. Perhaps you will slam the book shut in indignation (“What nonsense! This is not about me!”). You may want to shift the blame to others (“They are all to blame!”). Perhaps feign humility (“I have lived before and will continue to live”). Find the strength within you to overcome resistance.

On the fourth step you will need to return to the moment of initial trauma: how to suffer, get angry at your parents, feel sorry for yourself as a little one. This stage should end with a farewell to children's anger and gaining sympathy for parents, forgiving them. Fourth step- it is also a return to the true self, farewell to the mask, a greeting to your true "I", open to experience and love.

“To see the pain, to recognize it, to say hello to it is not easy. It is extremely difficult and also scary. But if the work with trauma is successful, then the person gains experience true compassion to himself. He seems to give himself permission to experience, and at the same time - reduces the level of anger, shame and anger in his soul. The pain must be experienced and released, and in no case should be crushed. AT last case it will not go away, but will only cripple the soul deeper, – Recommends Burbo.

How do you know that you are on the right track, and injuries are slowly healing?

Liz Burbo claims that the injury rejected close to healing if you let yourself take it all more space in life, you allow yourself to just be and find effective method to self-affirmation, self-realization.

Injury abandoned is close to healing if loneliness becomes bearable and even pleasant, if independence and determination grow, and the need for outside support becomes less annoying.

Injury humiliated is close to healing if control and self-demanding are weakened. If a person is able to ask for help and accept help, this is also a good sign.

Injury betrayal is close to healing if the person is more calm about disruption of plans, sudden separation, or if good deed went unnoticed by others.

Injury injustice close to healing, if a person gives himself permission to make mistakes, if there is access to emotions and feelings, if crying in front of strangers no longer means disgrace.

As symptoms lessen and trauma (no matter what) is healed, a person's emotional independence independence, attentiveness to their needs. Nurturing emotional independence, a person gradually learns that the "levers" from suffering, as well as from happiness, are in himself, in his perception, in his personality, in his psyche.

Below you will find exercises that will help with independent work traumatized and promote healing.

Exercise 1.

"Safe place"

Before execution:

Performance:

Find a quiet quiet place. Get comfortable. Take a few breaths in and out. Close your eyes and try to imagine his safe place. A safe place means a place where you feel calm, happy, serene. This place can be anywhere and can be of any size and shape. The main thing is to present it as detailed and realistic as possible.

So where is this place? Even if it's a fictional country or another planet, come up with a name for them! What is the scenery in a safe place, what is the weather like? What season is it in the yard? Your safe place is a room, or it is under open sky? What scents accompany it? Who dwells in a safe place besides you?

You can "populate" it with anyone, anyone, at least fairy tale characters. The main thing is that the inhabitants, and the landscape, and the climate are 100% safe, inspiring joy and peace.

Fantasize to your heart's content. Imagine every detail, do not hesitate to run wild - after all, this only yours a safe place, and no one will go there without your invitation. When you feel that you are satisfied, gradually return to this reality. Take your time to “jump” from there to here, take a deep breath. Open your eyes and see where you are. Say out loud the current date and year, your name. "Ground" well.

After executing:

You are free to travel to a safe place from time to time, gradually saturating it with more and more details, details, elements, people and animals. If you wish, after the next trip, you can write down what you saw there, or even better - sketch it.

When the safe place is also familiar enough for you, you can try to fix own feelings From him. Try to be attentive to positive emotions, learn to distinguish between "joy" and "delight", "happiness" and "surprise" ... Do not block yourself from positive emotions, because it is in them that there is a resource for liberation from mental trauma.

Exercise 2.

"Calm Breath"

Before execution:

In this exercise, it is proposed to master breathing with the diaphragm - in other words, breathing with the stomach, the most natural breathing for a person.

Performance:

Sit comfortably and place your hands on your knees or on the armrests to loosen your shoulders slightly.

1. Take a deep breath (for about 4 seconds) through your nose, directing the air into your lower abdomen.

2. Hold your breath for 1-2 seconds.

3. Slowly (about 4 seconds) exhale through your mouth.

4. Wait a few seconds before taking another breath.

There are 6-8 breath cycles per minute, and this is quite enough. If symptoms of hyperventilation of the lungs appear, such as dizziness, ringing in the ears, blurred vision, stop exercising. Don't hold your breath. Try to keep your body as relaxed as possible.

After executing:

Practice diaphragmatic breathing twice a day for five minutes. At first, do the exercise when you are more or less calm. Then you can easily switch to a calm mode, and the breathing exercise will protect you from "overload" and stress.

Exercise 3

"Problem"

Before execution:

The exercise is aimed at reducing the importance problem situation and movement towards inner peace. It is recommended to perform it after you have determined the type of your mask and have begun work on freeing yourself from personal emotional trauma.

Liz Burbo argues that it is not the traumatic event itself that matters, but your relationship with him. As soon as you decide to let go of the reaction to the trauma, then its presence in life will begin to decrease, and the mask will begin to “creep”. This exercise is to help on a difficult but true path.

Performance:

Sit comfortably. Think of a problem, a situation, a character trait, an established relationship, a recurring reaction - something that does not suit you, that you are unpleasant, annoying or hurt. State the problem in two or three sentences.

Then think of someone with whom you recently discussed this issue. Remember the situation, the course of the conversation, the situation, the face of the person. If you prefer to keep your problems to yourself, remember the environment in which you are in last time thought about their troubles. Where was it - on the street, at work, in the car? What happened around? Who was an involuntary witness to your painful reflections?

Try to step back from your situation and become purely an observer. Remember your loved ones, acquaintances, relatives, friends. What problems, troubles, troubles do they have? How is your problem similar to the problems of people you know? Think about it.

As you prepare, expand the range of fantasies. Remember what problems there are in your team, in your city, country? What unites all unpleasant and all joyful situations? What are the joys in life (in yours and in general) and what are the sorrows? Do not hurry. Try to enjoy the process.

Then imagine that you are looking through a special microscope, in which literally everything is visible - the whole Earth, solar system, Galaxy ... What troubles are there

at the Cosmos? What's Worrying About Planet Earth? Does the Galaxy have emotions?.. Fantasize!

And then - return in your thoughts to your original problem. State the main thing in it again. How do you see it now, after reflection? How serious does it seem to you?

After executing:

As a rule, after completing the exercise, it is possible to reformulate the essence of the problem, and the vision of life's troubles softens, they no longer seem so insurmountable, fatal, determining the course of life.

Exercise 4

"Resentment - WON"

Before execution:

This simple exercise allows you to be a little calmer about what hurts and those who hurt.

Performance:

Close your eyes, focus on your breath. Try to breathe with your diaphragm.

Clench your fists and imagine that you are holding your resentment in your hands. Stretch your arms with all your might. Feel the tension in your fists, in your muscles, in your shoulders, in your whole body… and then sharply open your fist, relax your muscles, relax your whole body, your face. Exhale noisily. Let go of resentment. Imagine them falling to the floor, rolling and disappearing. Or they crumble into small pieces, scatter to smithereens, and there are no more of them.

After executing:

Congratulations. Your resentment is gone.

Chapter Two

Three pillars of a happy life: responsibility, forgiveness and love

Healing trauma is first and foremost a process. No one knows how much time it will take for you to come to a result - that is, to a qualitatively different, happy, harmonious life. Therefore, in this matter, the main thing is to start and move forward, regardless of possible fears and internal resistance.

And while you're on the road, it's good to know a few more things. For example, about responsibility, forgiveness and love , without which, according to Liz Burbo, a happy life is impossible.

“Unwillingness to accept the experience, denial of responsibility and lack of love are the main reasons for our resistance and our difficulties,” – claims the famous coach and spiritual mentor.

However, three magic words need to be deciphered - “responsibility”, “forgiveness” and “love” can be interpreted very differently. What meaning does Liz Burbo put into these concepts?

Let's start with responsibility.

"Be responsible means to realize that we ourselves create our life and the world around. What we do is what we get,” says Bourbo.

Being responsible means being aware of the consequences of your actions. But - only their own! The only exception - when we are responsible for the decisions and actions of others - is only in situations where the parent is responsible for a minor child.

To be responsible means not to try to grasp the immensity and be responsible for everything in general. Responsibility is a purely personal matter, if not intimate. So, we have no right to force others be responsible for our actions, decisions and feelings. Conversely, we should not and cannot be responsible for the reactions, actions, thoughts and emotions of others.

Truly the responsible person accepts whatever life throws at him new experience and "food" for the development of the soul.

Taking full responsibility for our lives, we do not take away, but give ourselves a choice.

A sense of responsibility is the opposite of guilt, because guilt is experienced by those who feel a victim life, and responsibility is inherent owner.

For those who are not averse to turning from a victim into a host, Liz Burbo recommends a simple, effective remedy. That's what - conversations With myself.

From time to time, especially when making decisions, when meeting something new, when trying to understand what happened, Burbo suggests asking yourself a few questions.

For example: “How can I use my experience to grow and develop?”

Or: “Why did I need what happened?”

“What have I learned from what happened?”

“How will this help me better understand myself and others?”

“What will happen if my current wish comes true?”…

Regular practice of this kind well "cleans" consciousness, mind and intellect from any husk.

Firstly, with the help of questions “about the main thing”, we also learn in life to separate the main thing from the secondary, superficial.

Secondly, we focus on ourselves - on our desires, opportunities and responsibilities, without shifting the burden on our neighbors. Thirdly, as Bourbo assures us, through responsibility we learn acceptance - moreover, acceptance Total, what happens to us and what gives life.

Learn to forgive to be at the next stage of spiritual healing. This is the next test on the way to a new life. Yes, yes, a test, because in order to truly forgive - others and yourself - you need to thoroughly "shovel" the perception of life, past traumatic events, yourself.

"A person who has not forgiven, in fact, lives in the past", – says Liz Burbo. and adds: however, "the only reality exists in the present moment."

This means that until we have forgiven, reconciled, “let go” of the offenders, then we are, as it were, not here.

The process of forgiveness, according to Burbo, is decomposed into several stages:

Reconciliation with the offender;

Experience compassion for him;

Letting him be simply a person;

Awareness of anger towards oneself;

Forgiving yourself.

Of course, in life everything is somewhat more complicated than a few intelligible points. Forgiveness of the enemy can occur simultaneously with reconciliation with him, the realization of anger can cause a wild inner protest, and, for example, you may not get to forgive yourself at all ...

However, Liz Burbo offers a few “beacon” tips that will make it easier for you to figure out whether you are going in the right direction (that is, in the direction of forgiveness) in principle.

- It is advisable to meet with the person who once hurt you, and in private tell him what you experienced. Don't expect anything specific from this meeting, and especially don't expect remorse from the person who hurt you. However, try to see in this person not an executioner, but a suffering man or woman. If this succeeds, then it will be possible to both forgive and reconcile with him. You will understand this by feeling after: if after the meeting you are enveloped in ease and simplicity of perception of the world, then the task is completed. If questions, doubts remain, if you mentally continue the conversation with this person, having already said goodbye to him, then you are still angry with him and, moreover, with yourself.

After thinking a little and getting angry, say the following spell: “I give myself the right to anger, criticism, slander and accusations against this person. I give place to all these emotions in my soul. I give a place in my soul to the same suffering part of myself, which triggers anger and resentment.. Wait a bit, and you will surely feel how anger lets go, how resentment and anger become dull, how understanding comes: he, the villain, is also a person. To allow another (and even such an “other” who hurt!) to be just a person is almost a feat. And important step to true forgiveness.

If it doesn’t work out the first time, repeat the magic spell in moments of longing and anger - it will definitely help.

Forgiveness occurs through acquaintance and awareness of one's anger. One way or another, sooner or later, you will have to face your aggression, say hello to anger. And only after that "launch" the energy of forgiveness, which is always stronger and more productive than the energy of anger.

– The stage of self-forgiveness is necessary, as is necessary, say, the recovery period after a surgical operation or a serious illness. There will be no high-quality, long enough rehabilitation - sooner or later the disease will return again. It is the same in relationships: having reconciled with the enemy, but not with ourselves, sooner or later we will find that the traumatic situation is repeated (with this or with another person), and all the same fears and emotions roam in the soul.

Why is it so hard to forgive yourself? Liz Bourbo provides an answer to this question: deep trauma not only continues to bleed long years, but also inspires a person with the idea that forgiveness is not about him and not for him. Abandoned, rejected, betrayed, etc. cannot be forgiven and cannot forgive themselves.

A person who clings tightly to a long-standing mental trauma is, of course, not free.

And to forgive means to give yourself freedom!

All these responsibilities, forgiveness, acceptance sound beautiful, solemn, and try to feel them with your heart, let them into your life! This, without any pathos, requires courage, perseverance and, if you like, such a noble stubbornness that will not allow you to back down.

The exercises in this chapter are designed to make it a little easier to fulfill the honorable mission of forgiveness and liberation of oneself.

Exercise 5

“I forgive you” (technique of Margarita Murakhovskaya)

Before execution:

beautiful and effective exercise helps to get rid of resentment.

It should be done in a quiet, calm place where no one will disturb you.

Performance:

Imagine that you are walking down a country road. Around the flower meadow. The road divides a huge field strewn with beautiful wildflowers. You hear the buzzing of insects, the singing of birds, the rustle of grass. You feel good and easy, you breathe deeply and, without hurrying, walk.

You see a man who is coming towards you... This is your father! Only in youth. When you are level with him, you hold out your hands to him and say: “Hello, dad. Please forgive me for not being the way you wanted me to be. Thank you for everything, for what was and what was not. Dad, and I forgive you for everything: for not being there when I missed you so much, for not believing in me, hurting me, not talking about your love. I forgive you. You are free". You see how your dad suddenly turns into a child of three years old, whom you so want to take in your arms, kiss and say about your love.

Then dad-baby turns into a tiny one, the size of a palm. With tenderness and love, you find a place for the baby in your soul - where he will be calm.

You continue walking. Now your mother is coming towards you, at about the age at which she gave birth to you. You stretch out your hand to her and say: “Hello, mom. Forgive me, please, for everything - for hurting you sometimes. Sorry for not living up to your expectations. And I forgive you for everything - for the fact that when I needed your support so much, you were not there; for taking out your fears and anxieties on me; for not always believing in me. Now you are free. Thank you! Thanks to you, I was born. Thank you for your kindness and care."

Here your mother gradually turns into a three-year-old girl, you take her in your arms, hug her and say: “I love you very much. You are the closest and dearest." When mom becomes the size of a palm, you put her in your soul.

You move on. Another person approaches you. This time it's you. You look at yourself and say, “Hello. Forgive me, please, for everything, for always appreciating you. I really love you very much. You are the closest and dearest person to me." Now it's your turn to become a three-year-old baby, and then just a baby, who will be so comfortable in your loving soul.

You continue walking. You well. You are calm. You feel that now in life everything will be a little different.

After executing:

You are free to modify the exercise as you wish: you can change the text, you can change or add people you meet on a walk. Let the text reflect what is on the soul, and let the people be exactly those people who are waiting for your forgiveness.

Do this exercise for one month, once a day, and you will gradually feel that forgiveness has come to you as a gift.

Exercise 6

"I feel…"

Before execution:

Another exercise to help those who sincerely want to forgive themselves.

Performance:

Sit comfortably. Take a few breaths to slow down your thoughts a little.

Feel your body as part of you and say (to yourself or out loud) next text: “I can feel my right foot. I fully accept, forgive my right foot for everything. I love my right foot and thank it for everything it does for me. I can feel my right ankle. I have a wonderful, healthy and beautiful right ankle. I love my right ankle and forgive it for everything…” Slowly listing all the parts of your body, we rise up. Give forgiveness to the right side of the body first, then to the left. Try to remember as much as possible more parts bodies and organs that need forgiveness and acceptance. It is especially important to forgive those parts of the body where there are physical discomforts.

Don't save time! If today is running out of time, it is better to divide the ritual of forgiveness into parts: let's say today you communicate with right side of his body, tomorrow - on the left.

When the forgiven body feels at ease, proceed to the second part of the exercise - forgiveness of your personality.

Say something like this to yourself: “I feel like a girl. I am a wonderful, healthy and beautiful girl. I completely accept and forgive myself - a girl for everything. I love myself - a girl and thank her for everything she does for me. I feel like a grown woman. I am wonderful, healthy and beautiful woman. I fully accept and forgive myself - a woman for everything. I feel like a mistress. I am wonderful, healthy, sexy and beautiful mistress. I completely accept and forgive myself - my mistress, for everything ... ". Walk through all your social roles that you are currently running. You can modify the text as you like, as long as the words "forgiveness" and "love" remain in it.

After executing:

Repeat the exercises for two weeks, every day. This period, it is considered, is enough for true forgiveness of oneself.

Exercise 7

"A Few Phrases"

Before execution:

The exercise, borrowed from Gestalt therapy, works on taking responsibility for oneself, one's actions, one's life. Classically, the exercise is performed in pairs, but you can also do it alone, armed with a white sheet of paper.

Performance:

The exercise is performed in four steps.

First step. Write on a piece of paper the beginning of the phrase "I must ..." - and verbally come up with an ending. Then, leaving the end of the phrase the same, replace "I have to" with "I prefer." Well, is there a difference? If yes, then try to realize it, feel it, understand how great is the distance from “should” to “prefer”.

Second step. Write on a piece of paper the beginning of the phrase “I can’t” and come up with an ending. It is desirable, of course, that the content of these phrases has at least some relation to your current life. Following the same principle as in the first step, replace the beginning of the phrase with "I do not want", leaving the ending the same. Feel the difference.

Third step. Do the same, "replacing" the phrase "I need ..." with "I want ..."

Fourth step. Replace the beginning "I'm afraid that..." with "I would like to...".

If you are doing the exercise alone, write down the resulting phrases on a piece of paper and save it.

After executing:

Think about which phrases you like the most at the end of the exercise, and which ones cause dislike, anxiety, or even fear. Why? Think about what will happen if instead of endless “shoulds” you are guided by “I want”, but at the same time, the way of life, the field of activity, the composition of the family does not change so much? .. Which responsibility is more pleasant, in the end, forced or voluntary, received with love and warmth?

Chapter Three

How to talk to yourself about love

A separate chapter is devoted to how to love yourself and confess to yourself in love. After all, forgiveness, and responsibility, and all the good things in the world are based on love ... However, not everyone is capable of experiencing true love, including true love for oneself, just like that.

What is real love, other than passion, sympathy, selfishness, desire to possess?

Well, at least love is work. Love is self-disclosure. This is a risk, this is a movement, this is an action. This is the always active state.

This is knowledge and the desire for knowledge!

Perhaps that is why it is so difficult for a traumatized person who has long forgotten his true "I", insecure and frightened, to love himself and confess his love to himself. And considering that every second of us was traumatized in one way or another in childhood, you can imagine the number of people who did not like, or even did not love themselves at all!

Besides, long time it was believed that self-love is something abnormal, unworthy, inherent only in narcissistic egoists. And although now the stupid stereotype has been destroyed, not everyone dares to love themselves and confess their love to themselves.

Liz Burbo interprets self-love as the unconditional acceptance of oneself "as it is in this moment". She claims that a true lover accepts all parts of himself, including those that are objectively unnecessary, that bring suffering.

“Love”, according to Burbo, is by no means equal to such concepts as “like”, “please”, “correspond”, “always agree”. The only possible synonym for true love is acceptance.

Love is never selfishness, but manifestations true love often mistaken for selfishness. For example, those who expect from love and from loving person eternal conciliation and readiness to fulfill any whim, here they are just egoists. Those who truly love and can say "no" only show the limits of their capabilities at the moment. It doesn't make love any less.

What is "love yourself"?

"Love yourself, – writes Burbo, – it means recognizing the rights to change, to develop, to gain experience and to make mistakes. This means respecting not only your virtues, but also your limitations, fears and weaknesses, guilt, beliefs and desires. Everything that gives experience. You have to understand that everything is necessary and everything is temporary.”

Through observations, conversations, research, Burbo identified several key features that can be identified as true love to yourself and to those around you:

Acceptance of one's dissimilarity to others and the dissimilarity of each person to each other.

The ability to give yourself pleasure, even if it seems that it is undeserved. The same goes for our loved ones.

The ability to accept yourself or another, even knowing that you or the other is far from perfect.

The desire to be more and more what you want (in the case of others: to notice a movement for the better in loved ones).

The ability to listen to your heart, not the rules imposed by others.

The ability to take away from every event lesson, experience. Do not blame yourself or others for mistakes.

The realization that no one is responsible for my happiness except myself. Just like I am not responsible for “making happy” others, even those close and loved ones.

To truly love yourself - to love "clean and dirty", ugly and well-groomed, stupid and wise, in weakness and laziness, in lies and cowardice, in courage and nobility, you must first understand the following:

On this planet, you are primarily for yourself. The rest - parents, lovers, friends, children, colleagues, teachers - are given to us as guides, as helpers, allowing us to better know ourselves.

Such, according to Liz Burbo, is the unwritten law of the universe.

Easy to say - hard to do. And is it possible at all - to take and love yourself, if all previous experience says that people like you do not like?

To at least try to find love for yourself, so that at least start a conversation about love, Burbo suggests starting with intelligent life management.

All you need is:

Be aware of the consequences of your decisions;

Realize not imaginary, but true cause-and-effect relationships;

Try to evaluate the usefulness of your decisions and actions for yourself and others;

Notice the virtues in others first, and then the shortcomings;

Allow yourself to be happy, even if loved ones are unhappy. Sharing their misfortune, we do not make them happier, but multiply misfortune on earth;

To the extent possible, eat natural products; eat only when you are hungry, and often say “thank you” to your body for good service;

Rest and sleep regularly;

follow environment and not to waste the resources of nature excessively;

Buy only what you need;

To allow ourselves to do conditionally “right” and conditionally “wrong” - after all, only through trial and error can we understand what we really need and where to get it.

Agree, it is not so difficult to follow the rules of rationality! Gradually, one by one, introduce them into your life. Add your own if you feel the need.

Be patient.

Forgive yourself and forgive again!

Take the lessons!

Watch others!

The result will not come immediately, but it promises to be amazing: you will learn to love yourself as anyone, but, most importantly, more and more often you will not be “any”, but what you have always dreamed of becoming.

In the fourth part of this training (just in time for the industrious, inquisitive reader to do a serious inner work and not bad internally “grow up”) once again we will return to the topic of self-love and discuss in more depth the nuances of relationships with oneself.

And now, as psychological support you are offered exercises aimed at developing self-love. The same conscious unconditional love.

Exercise 8

"Magic Door"

Before execution:

Make sure your thoughts are calm and your imagination free.

Performance:

Sit comfortably. You can close your eyes to help your fantasy work, or you can keep your eyes open and stare at some plain background if it activates your imagination.

Now imagine closed door. It can be anything in color and size and can be anywhere. The door can lead to a luxurious mansion, decorate the gates of the castle, “live” in the entrance of a multi-storey building, invite you to an apartment, or even just rise in an open field. One thing must be constant - the word "Love", written on the door in calligraphic handwriting or scratched with a knife. Looking at the door, you must understand that the inscription on it is not a joke. The door really leads to the world of love. Moreover, personally to your world of love, where a variety of people, creatures and objects live, memories, emotions, situations and sensations that matter to you personally and are related to the theme of love.

Do not rush to penetrate into the world of love: take the time to properly, in detail, imagine this door, the inscription on it. However, do not rush to imagine what awaits you outside the door - wait a minute.

When you open the magic door to the land of love, the impressions will appear on their own. Do not force their appearance with the mind and do not filter them. Let images, sounds, memories, smells appear, body sensations arise. Gradually explore your own world of love.

End of introductory segment.

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The following excerpt from the book 15 lessons of Liz Burbo. Heal the traumas that prevent you from being happy, loved and rich (Maria Aber, 2016) provided by our book partner -

7 steps to forgiveness by Liz Burbo! Do you know what is the easiest and most effective way to change your life for the better? This is positive! How much time do you spend on resentment and anger? How much strength do you take away experiences and tears? Is it possible to heal from all these negative emotions? Yes, yes and yes again! Key to happy and happy life is forgiveness! You do not even suspect what wonderful changes await those who agree to let go of their old grievances! Resentment is a poison that a person drinks, hoping that the offender will poison himself and die. However, the result is exactly the opposite! Anyone normal person resentment accumulates over the course of life: against other people, against the government, against the world, on himself. This is basically a normal process. After all, our body also accumulates what we do not need: toxins, toxins. So insults are like slag. They need to be removed in time, clearing our emotional body. Many people have already guessed that resentment is a very harmful thing. Many psychologists, like Louise Hay, Inna Segal, and Liz Burbo, have even noted that resentment can provoke cancer, cysts, and other health problems. And yet, since resentment appears in our lives, it means that for some reason we need them? It turns out that resentment against other people is a very convenient mirror that shows what you do not accept in yourself and what you condemn yourself for! So, each of your resentment can help you know yourself better and love yourself more. Many people fear that by forgiving they will show weakness. In fact, true forgiveness is gaining great strength . After all, insults always take a lot of energy from a person. Our goals may not come true, life may seem gloomy and difficult, only because all the forces that could create a beautiful reality for us are spent on maintaining old grievances. By letting go of resentment, it’s as if you are relieving a burden from your shoulders and getting the opportunity to move forward! Understand that you are offended by someone, your offender will not get worse, but you will! Firstly, you will lose a lot of strength, and secondly, you will aggravate dislike for yourself and rejection of yourself. Thirdly, wishing evil to the offender, you can unwittingly attract punishment to yourself! Many people are seized by the desire to avenge insults and do justice. But before moving from thoughts to actions, ask yourself: is it worth it for me to sow such negativity, am I ready to reap what I have sown? If thoughts of vendetta haunt you, try to make them funny. Laugh at yourself and your resentment. Come up with some very funny imaginary revenge. For example, that you call your friend Terminaror, he comes to your offender, along with colleagues Hulk and Batman, and together they put the offender in a corner. Humor can heal the soul from resentment. METHOD OF RELEASE FROM OFFENSES: 7 STEPS TO FORGIVENESS. Step number 1. Formulate what you accuse/for what you condemn the person? Determine how exactly you feel in this situation? Write down your accusations and feelings on a piece of paper. Step #2 Identify and write down what you are afraid of in this situation? How does she threaten you? What expectations did you have for the other person that they failed to meet? (At this point, you will probably understand that the reason for your experiences was not so much the behavior or act of another person, but your own expectations). Step number 3. Now imagine yourself in the place of your offender. Imagine that you live in his body, his life, with his worldview, his work, leisure, family, environment, etc. Understand that he experienced the same feelings as you and experienced the same fears that you found in point number 2. Think about the situation in which your offender could accuse you of what you accuse him of? Step #4: Forgive yourself! Feel compassion for the part of you that blamed the other person. Forgive yourself for doing the same as your offender. Realize that everything you did was only out of good intentions and fears. And it's not because you're a bad person! Step #5: Imagine that you meet your abuser and tell him about the previous 4 steps of forgiveness. How do you feel about it? If there are doubts and fears, then steps 2 and 3 have not been completed yet. Give yourself time to forgive and accept. Step #6: Meet the abuser. Tell me about the previous steps of forgiveness, your emotions and fears. Ask if the abuser had similar emotions towards you or similar fears? Step #7: Check under what circumstances you experienced similar fears and accusations with a parent of the same gender as your abuser! For complete forgiveness, it is worth going through all 6 stages with a parent! Remember, personality and behavior are two different things. All of us in one situation or another can behave like fools, bastards, traitors. This does not mean that we are who we are! It was just our behavior in certain moment, in certain circumstances. Change the circumstances and behavior will change too! A person always acts only from the best of intentions. No one wakes up with the thought “what would be wrong to do such a thing”. Mistakes give us invaluable experience and ultimately make our lives better. So, let's forgive ourselves and accept ourselves as we are! (Love my life blog by Victoria Isaeva)

Physical blocking

“What epithets best describe what I feel in my body at the moment?” The answer to this question will fully reflect your attitude towards the person or situation that provoked the problem.

Emotional blocking

“What does this disease prevent me from doing?” The answer to this question will allow you to determine which desires are blocked.

“What does this disease force me to do?” Begin each answer to this question with negative particle“not”, and you will find out what desires are blocked.

Spiritual Blocking

“If I allowed myself to realize these desires, how would my life change?”(Referring to the desires that you identified in answering the previous questions.) The answer to this question defines a deep need in your being that is blocked by some kind of false belief.

mental blocking

“If I allowed myself to be… (insert answer to the previous question here) what terrible or unacceptable thing would happen in my life?” The answer to this question will allow you to identify the belief that blocks you, your desires and your need for self-realization, thus creating a physical problem.

Outcome:

Having figured out what belief or belief is preventing you from being who you want, you can now change or replace it. To do this, you must first give yourself the right to this belief or belief, that is, to get in touch with your inner child, which formed it once upon a time as a result of some kind of psychological trauma. Then ask yourself: Do you really still need this belief to feel happy?

If so, then that belief is still useful to you. Since you are free to manage your life, you can continue to keep it, but know that everything in your life will remain the same, including pain. Don't expect change.

If you still believe this belief to be true, but are not convinced that it makes you happy, compare it with what you had a few years ago. Perhaps today your belief has become much weaker. If so, then you are on your way to a cure.

If you are firmly convinced that you no longer want to keep this belief, you have to the only way: Do whatever it takes to fulfill your desires and become WHO YOU WANT TO BE.

Findings:

Man can't get well without forgiving himself . This fundamental stage opens up the possibility of transforming not only our love for ourselves, but also the very heart and blood in our physical body.

This new blood, filled with the energy of newfound love, will wash the entire body like a miraculous balm and heal all cells in its path. Even if your common sense does not allow you to believe it - try it all the same, because you have nothing to lose.

Here are the stages of true forgiveness that have already been passed by thousands of people and rewarded with miraculous results:

1. Define your emotions (often there are several). Be aware of what you are accusing yourself or another person of, and determine what feelings this causes in you.

2. Take responsibility. To show responsibility means to realize that you always have a choice - to react with love or with fear. What are you afraid of? Now realize that you may be afraid of being accused of the same things you blame the other person for.

3. Understand the other person and relieve stress. In order to relieve tension and understand another person, put yourself in his place and feel his intentions. Think about the fact that he may blame both himself and you for the same thing that you blame him for. He is afraid, just like you.

4. Forgive yourself. This is the most important step in forgiveness. In order to forgive yourself, give yourself the right to be afraid, to show weakness, to be mistaken, to have shortcomings, to suffer, and to be angry. Accept yourself as you are in the present moment, knowing that this is a temporary state.

5. Feel the urge to ask for forgiveness. In preparation for the stage, imagine that you are asking for forgiveness from the person whom you condemned, criticized, or accused of something. If this image gives you a feeling of joy and freedom, you are ready for the next step.

6. Meet the person you want to apologize to. Tell him about your experiences and ask for forgiveness for judging, criticizing or hating him. The fact that you yourself forgave him, mention only if he talks about it.

7. Make a connection or make a decision about the parent.

Remember a similar situation in the past with a person who represented power, authority for you - with your father, mother, grandfather, grandmother, teacher, etc. This person must be of the same gender as the one you just forgave. Repeat with him all the steps of forgiveness.

If the emotions you are experiencing are directed against yourself, go through steps 1,2,4 and 7.

* Give yourself the time you need to go through all the stages of forgiveness. At one stage you may need a day, at another a year; the most important thing is to Your wish going through these stages was sincere. The stronger psychological trauma and resistance ego the more time it takes.

* If step 6 proves to be very difficult, know that it is your ego. If you think: " Why on earth should I ask for forgiveness from this person, if I did not offend him, but he me? I had every reason to be angry with him!” It's your ego speaking, not your heart. The most important desire of your heart is to live in peace and compassion for others.

* Don't worry if the person you're asking for forgiveness doesn't react the way you expected. Some things are almost impossible to predict. He may not say anything, change the topic of conversation, be surprised, refuse to talk about it, cry, ask for your forgiveness, throw himself into your arms, etc. Try to treat with understanding the feelings of another person - as well as your own.

* As I noted in the description of the sixth stage of forgiveness, you should not tell the person who offended you that you have forgiven him. There are three reasons for this:

1. It may turn out that the person you are angry with did not have the intention of offending you at all. Reality often differs from our perception. Maybe this person did not even suspect that you were offended.

2. You must understand that forgiveness is needed. you, for release myself. To forgive another person is to take a necessary step towards forgiving yourself.

3. You must also realize that it is not in your power to truly forgive another person. Only he can forgive himself.

* If a person does not want to accept your request for forgiveness, this means that he cannot forgive himself. You can forgive him, but that's not enough. He must forgive himself. You are only responsible for yourself, but the fact that you have forgiven yourself can help the other person forgive themselves.

* If you tell another person about your experiences, and he suddenly begins to make excuses, he may have thought that you were blaming him. If so, then you have not yet forgiven this person and you hope that he will change.

* If you, going to meet this person, hope that he will understand the depth of your suffering and ask your forgiveness, you still have not forgiven him. In any case, you should not be angry with yourself; you just need a little more time to move on to steps 2 and 3. You may have already forgiven this person with your mind, but have not yet had time to forgive him with your heart. To forgive a person with the mind means to understand the motives of his actions, but this does not bring relief or inner liberation. This often happens. Mind Forgiveness - good start, since it at least testifies to goodwill.

* Remember: forgiving someone does not mean that you agree with his accusations. When you forgive someone, you seem to be saying that you look through the eyes of your heart and see something more important in the depths of this person’s soul than his accusations.

* Thanks to this forgiveness, it will be easier for you to give yourself the right to be yourself and show your human feelings.

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Now let's look at three emotions that people experience the most difficult: fear, anger and sadness. A person usually suppresses, controls, hides these emotions - in a word, does everything not to experience them, as they stir up emotional wounds received in childhood and adolescence. These wounds are caused by five negative psychological factors: the trauma of the rejected, the trauma of the abandoned, the trauma of humiliation, betrayal and injustice.

Instead of giving themselves the right to be imperfect and suffer from emotional wounds, most people continue to blame others as the cause of their fear, anger, and sadness. That is why people experience so many negative emotions, and emotions, in turn, cause all kinds of diseases.

But these emotions can be used for good:

* Fear helps you understand that you need protection and are looking for it. He also reminds us that real protection should be sought in oneself.

* Anger is useful in that it helps you discover your need for self-assertion, articulate your demands, and listen more closely to your needs.

* Sadness helps you understand that you are suffering from a sense of loss or fear of losing. Sadness teaches a person not to be attached.

LOVE YOURSELF means being responsible for your life and giving yourself the right to exercise this responsibility. If you love yourself, you will have a healthy and energized body that will allow you to fulfill all your dreams.

Always remember that your inner GOD uses all possible means and through your body speaks and reminds you: "LOVE YOURSELF!"

Liz Burbo" Your body says "Love yourself!"

Being a successful person is not difficult. The main thing is to have the desire and good teacher. Liz Burbo is one of the best teachers in the field of emotional and energetic improvement.

The 7 Rules for Success are not just a set of tips. These are proven recommendations that have already helped many people find harmony with themselves and become more successful.

Who is Liz Burbo

This is one of the most famous leaders schools personal development. She comes from Canada, where her scientific research in the field of bioenergetics and psychology. The scientist and doctor claims that not only regular problems and troubles appear in our lives due to wrong views on the world and wrong thoughts. Because of this, all diseases appear, including incurable ones.

According to Liz Burbo, any of our illnesses are just symptoms that tell us that our thoughts are wrong. Remember that there are many rumors and there are many facts about how people won severe illness simple confidence. You can also overcome endless failures by becoming more successful.

Rules for Success

Rule One: do not give up. Never, under any circumstances, tell yourself that you are out of the game, that you are giving up and do not want to continue the fight. Sometimes it turns out that we turn back before reaching desired point millimeters. You may always miss them. Remember - only forward!

Rule two: lead healthy lifestyle life. Liz Burbo notes this rule as one of the most important. Healthy sleep and physical exercise will help you activate your energy and become more successful.

Rule three: stop wearing monotonous dark clothes. This rule also applies to the environment - your home or office. Bright colours always bring light and joy, which is very important for those who want to embark on the path of success.

Rule Four: work on own thoughts. Thoughts are material, so use daily affirmations to correct pathological self-doubt, Bad mood or the habit of initially tuning in to the negative.

Rule Five: Drink plenty of fluids. This does not apply to alcohol. Pure water helps to improve health and remove toxins from the body. This is important point, which can be called the simplest of all.

Rule six: in the world around you, try to find only the good. Learn to see what most do not notice. admire bad weather, birdsong in the morning, snowfall and bright sun. There is beauty in everything and everywhere, so just be careful.

Rule seven: remember that life is ephemeral and eerily simple. Do not take it as a special duty or something difficult. Everything is simple and clear. Live and enjoy life, then success will knock on your door and enter without waiting for an answer.

The rule can be executed not in sequence, but at your discretion. They are rather prescriptions and advice that you should take seriously.

Energy is very important, because it is responsible for good luck and good mood. These are the two most important components of happiness for any of us. Boost your energy with anything known ways: meditations, breathing exercises, rituals and affirmations. 7 rules for success from Liz Burbo will be an excellent basis for starting a new life. Good luck and don't forget to press the buttons and

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